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Originally Posted by GenePoole
I think this is the issue:
you guys seem to come at it from the point of "I am the better man and if I carry on being like that she will not cheat" with her ex fuck buddy.
Whereas, I come at it from the point of view that it makes me unhappy knowing that one of her friends used to be with her intimately - maybe you heard/know a few of the scenarios, sex stuff they did, or something.
I just think changing my standards might make me happier but am not sure how to get past some of them.
Anyway, that about covers it...as you say...going round in circles.
Thanks
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People cheat on each other for all kinds of reasons...you can't nessarily control all of them all the time...what you can control is yourself. And not being controlling, insecure, jealous, intrusive, obsessive, suffocating, needy, paranoid, judgemental etc within a relationship dynamic will go some way towards making any relationship more healthy and therefore reducing the potiential reasons someone might have to want to stray or walk away...