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Originally Posted by Lovefish
Tonight i bumped into a smoking hot older woman, I hadnt met in a few years (i liked her back then, but fuck she looks damn good now!!). I know her a bit so it was easy to number drop her.Shes got 3 kids, one that needs full time care from her = very little spare time and one of her 3 kids is nearly my age.
So my questions are do you pull older women differently or just the same??how do i stop her thinking im a kid even tho im nearly 30!! as her daughters a similar age and tho im pretty sure she is/could be interested she seems to make mothery comments to me from time to time,which i have tried my best to neg away,thus far?? ie dont be going into old mother mode with me,you`ll be teaching me how to tie my shoe laces in a minute 
She has barely any free time,which is both good and bad,im not 100% sure but im pretty sure shes not got a bf and dont imagine she has time to go look so she must be gagging for it,the flip side is i doubt she will have much time to spend with me if i can get her to spend time with me so the logistics could be a nightmare.
Any and all suggestions welcome  |
It's not tough to do, in my opinion. However, it is challenging getting the balance right. ON one hand, women love to pull any strings they can, to try and disqualify a potential mate, meaning you need to do it first (so instead of allowing her to say you're a baby, you need to false disqualify her and reframe it by saying
you're too young for
her ). On the other hand, if you're too harsh you'll knock her confidence for six and you will scared her away.
It's similar to younger chicks in that you have to disarm them by turning the gun on them before they point it at you (same thing in reverse "
I'm too old for
you ") However, with younger chicks you can essentially fire at will, especially if she's very attractive and she's recently discovered all the boys (and a good amount of men too) are fantasising about her whilst talking to her.
On the other hand, older women have a fragile ego, particularly attractive older women. She knows she is still hot, but imagine how she must feel as she becomes progressively less attractive. She notice wrinkles, greying, sagging amongst other things. So I would suggest false disqualication and reframing of the age thing, as explained above. But I would only emphasise the C and F and false disqualification if she prizes herself too much (naturally, do this indirectly, don't directly respond to her bullshit and/ or shit tests if she pulls it/ them). Like mystery teaches, "reward" her for good behaviour, "punish" her for bad behaviour.
Good luck and post again please, I'd like to know how it goes