Went to Amsterdam for 4 days with my boys from Toronto and brother. Here is what happened –

I arranged to meet a local Amsterdam girl that I met in London a while back. I thought she liked me as we have been poking each other on fb for ages. On the night, I flirted with her a lot and did all the game stuff like making her friend laugh and just having a good time, social proofing, etc. She wasn’t drinking the whole night and didn’t want to take off her coat or bag and give it the cloak room. It was challenging and don’t know why she was like this.

I tried to dance with her 3 times and each time she pulled away, the closest I got was holding her hand for about 10 seconds. She would then break contact and divert attention to my brother or her mate.

I made a number of sexual jokes which she burst out laughing, like she said she does ballet and I said “you must be quite flexible then”. Another one was she was fiddling around with the end of her dress lifting it up and she murmured something to which I said “oh your not wearing any underwear, really” to which she burst out laughing and then pointed to her friend and said she was not wearing any underwear. I wouldn’t usually be this explicit but as I only had 1 night with her I wanted to make it clear that I was interested.

She also kept going in and out of the venue, which got really frustrating. I then went to see her outside and she said she had to go (we had only been in there for about an hour or two) which annoyed me. I then said do you want to get something to eat with us, to which she said she wasn’t hungry and really needed to catch the train home. At this point I was just pissed off and gave up. I’m welcome to people’s thoughts on this and what I should have done differently.

One thing I did learn from my Canadian friend, who is a natural, he had no approach anxiety and must have opened at least 40 girls during the trip to which about 35 ignored him. This was truly inspiring, and he said simply: “don’t be a pussy, just holler at them”. To the few girls that did respond they were really friendly and up for it, and managed fb closes. He didn’t have much skill in terms of conversation but he was just being himself, had a genuine interest in getting to know people and portrayed confidence.