Here comes the same argument again...

Confidence is far more important than fitness but fitness won't hurt your chances and without it there is a subset of the populous that you will never be able to attract as they have a shallow "only fit people" mindset.

Also, I know plenty of grossly fat guys that do just fine, they have fantastic confident personalities though. I have also known several grossly fat guys that attract nobody at all, those all have terrible self hating and weak mindsets though.

There are however people that are attracted to fat guys, just as there are guys attracted to fat girls.

There are people attracted to only muscly men, there are people who are turned off by it. There are also people who prefer really skinny guys. You only have to look at "scene" culture for a representation of this. Drainpipes and ultra tight tees on super skinny guys.

What's best depends on what type of person you really want to be with.