Some of my thoughts on winging and meeting guys from Internet Forums to meet girls:

Showing off your skills

This works both ways and in my opinion both should be avoided. I have been guilty of both in the past.

The first is when you’re out and you feel a pressure to show off your skills and show how great you are. Rather than approaching to improve your prospects of getting with gorgeous girls you approach to show your wings that you are a cool little PUA dude who is great with women.

The second is going out hoping to watch some experienced PUAs in action rather than doing it yourself. I know a lot of you new guys will probably have the delusional belief that the more frequent posters are going to show you some magical hokery pokery to get with girls. It’s not like that here. It’s just going to be some cool guys going out having fun and chatting to women. You should be the same.

Getting all nervous

When there is lots of new guys together I sometimes feel this real negative anxiety like I have to be doing stuff. It is not fun and is a one way ticket to terrible state! I can almost see a dark cloud over our heads when it’s like this. I would recommend having fun with each other and don’t get anxious over the fact you’re out ‘picking-up’. However……

Indulging each others AA

I’ve met with random guys off the Internet who I don’t know and just wandered around the street with them for hours on end without approaching. It’s weird enough we are doing this to meet girls, let alone meeting and not actually approaching. That is essentially online dating! Don’t go on gay dates, actually approach and if you’re not make sure you point it out and push each other into it. Do not indulge each others AA by not speaking about it!

Getting out-gamed

I’ve been on nights out where someone is doing pretty well and it completely knocks me back into my head and makes me all insecure. I guess it’s because men are competitive and also if you see someone doing better than you it damages your ego! You should not feel this. Just be happy they are doing well and do your own thing.

Knowing your targets

I was with Foley recently and we brought these girls back to his. (Foley is a regular wing of ours in London, but does not post much here – think he has a life or something?). We didn’t pull them because (amongst other reasons) we didn’t really establish whose was whose and therefore never really got the ball rolling. It was just a big friend fest.

Also, whoever approaches them should have first dibs really and don’t start cracking on to a girl your wing approached (unless of course he is cool with it for whatever reason).

Pointing stuff out

If someone is doing something blatantly wrong point it out. This Friday I was acting needy as hell. Craigus you pointed this out after the event. You should have told me during. Also whilst I was wrapped up in my own stuff I don’t think you and Johnny were approaching much. I should have said you guys should be approaching! That ‘Bounce’ thing we did was cool the other week and if we are having a night where we’re not really approaching we should do this! It’s cool I’ve got proper friends here now, but we’re still meeting to pick up chicks essentially! However…..

Talking about Game

Don’t go on and on about Game with guys when you meet them. It is lame. Action first analyse later.

It can be funny sharing stories about girls (I know I have turned my wing’s ears red with silly stuff I have done), but again don’t try to show off like your some big pimp to cover up the fact your actually being a chode. And don’t be saying things like oh I usually do day game not night game, which is why I’m not doing too well. The only one who gives a shit is you! Plus you should be a cool mofo the whole time, not when the circumstances fit you (hard I know, but you should).

Meerkatting

Don’t be looking around like a meerkat for girls. People can see it a mile off. Again just have fun with your wings and if you see a girl you like go for it.

Wingman Section

Finally if you’re a key board jockey sitting there reading this and still not going out - go to the Wingman section now and do something with your life!