No problem fella, it's "positive intention", speaks well of you. Sorry to hear of your example, I can relate to some extent. I posted it because this is everywhere and the other thread irked me a bit, yet there is no sensible debate about how to handle it, it's all self preservation and pumping state, the standard community advice which shuts us down from genuine emotion and/or shuts out the girl for being human. The community has nothing on this if you're into each other and there is a genuine problem that could at least be attempted to be healed.

PS