I think poker Is a good to compare.

just like in poker you're trying to get them to invest into the pot only with game it's an emotional investment.

for instance slow playing is very similar to not revealing lot bout yourself so they have to invest.

a bet could be similar a to neg challenging their strength.

e.g girl: bet 200= I prefer goth guys (you're dressed smart)
you: raise 800=oh well
girl: fold= but you're really buff