You can't rely on manipulating other people, largely because people are difficult to predict. 'Dominance' and 'Alpha Male' are both new age terms, and as far as I know, they aren't especially applicable to humans. Either way, and this is gonna' sound gay, but so long as you are relying on any form of sado-masochistic relations with people you are going to lack internal balance since both are manifestations of fear and imperfection.