cool, cheers for the advice guys.
i've got a "date" with her this week, and i think i'm just gunna b cocky funny (i'm quite like that anyway) about the whole situation and try not take it too seriously so she doesn't think its an issue but at the same time saying things in a confident way to try return to the frame of more than just friends. My theory is if i just have an amazing date with her while portraying that we definately were always going to be and should be more than just friends (in a joking way at least) then she will hopefully start to see it in that way too as she is clearly in two minds about the situation, so i'll push her into the frame i want.
i'll hopefully be seeing her quite a few times this holiday period so i can build on that, and then if all else fails, i'll just man up and tell her, but without being too needy (your def right about that one Tom.)

I'll go introduce myself on the intro page now, although i'm going to change my user name to Flex, so thats who I am.