First of all thanks for all your replies.

The thing is, I cant even get a meet, she sais she still wants to see me but closes up as soon as I try to do anything either that or turns everything into an argument as a defense.

UPDATE - took the gamble and foned her up yesterday saying I was in town and see if I could drop by and say hi, she said she was watching a film with her friend (female) which i no was true. said she would txt back later.

10pm 6 hours on - me 'geeek! wheres my txt?'
11.12pm - her 'sorrry! u ok? out tonight?x'
11.30pm - me 'maybe possibly. look for me. say hi this time!'
she sees me in the club and sais "I said hiii!' in an aggressive tone (she puts on this act whenever she sees me now) and acts cold, so does her friend so i wonder off with my mate.
12.36am - her 'one minute ur there the next ur gone. u say i should say hi but u bugger off'
12.40am - me 'Im socialising, il come back later'
I see her makin out with some dude, went up to her a couple minutes later and said "You could have just told me you were seeing someone, its fine", her "Im not seeing anyone!!', I stay calm but she always acts aggressive and turns everything into an argument. her "I do still want to see you,you had all night to come and talk to me!", me "I told you I was socialising, ok let's talk now then", her "No! you're only talking to me because you just saw me kiss a guy!" and walks off. see the mind screw guys? she just turns everything into a defense making it impossible for me, but still accusing me of not 'trying'.
2.38am - her 'you mate knows how to act around girls maybe u could learn something from him!' this txt was out of the blue when my mate pulled some bird.
3.24am - After the club closed I was at the taxi rank discussing the situation with my mate when she sent me another txt 'I want to keep seeing you but you don't seem to understand what I would like from you. You say you like me and you miss me but you only show it in private, its like your embarrassed by me in public. It's not fair. I want someone who isnt ashamed of me' WTF?

I dont know if that kiss was a jealousy plot but i know that i was always on the corner of her eye and even talking to a girl she could watch me like a hawk, i cant deny i did the same. she even wanted me to introduce my friend to her.
Anyway after chattin with my mate about it i decided it was enough and sent her this when i got home
4.15am - 'heres how it is.i want to keep seeing u too, but ur makin it impossible for me.ive tried the last 3 weeks, u cant say i havnt.embarrassed of u?..NO.txt and fb chat is getting us nowhere, so this will be my last msg.if u want us together then phone me, or u know where i am.then we might actually make a start.its ur choice.if not, kl, we move on.' and to note i havnt heared anything yet up to this post, but im gonna keep to my pact and try to take my mind of it.