This is a problem ive had/have

Ive been told in the past -- god i feel like im being interviewed.
Ive walked away from dates having asked them gazillions of questions to keep the silences at bay.... basically 2 problems

1)Ive not hooked them at a deepish level
2)Ive been such a Chode -- by giving her value, being afraid to expose the fact she wasnt interested in what i ahd to say.

now i tend to.

Not give a fuck
Remember you have higher value you are fucking awesome she is lucky as fuck you chose to talk to her, dont forget that.
Ask her some stuff-- show genuine interest, find out what matters to her and get well below the surface.
make it fun -- roll out thumb wars, esp reading, arm wrestling - bicep poses whatever-- get kinoing her quick.
then if you feel its a little one sided after youve done that, back right off, look around-- create a silence--see if she pipes up to fill it.

If not Eject or get ruthless


Im still learning all this stuff as i go along-- ive got a long way to go