Re the 'premature ejection' thing the answer is don't eject without rejection. It's easy to forget when you're learning to get your game on track.

A result of quickly learning new skills that work can be that whilst your improved approach is getting the reaction you want, your mind hasn't caught up yet and is still pre-conditioned to expect the more negative reactions you used to get. So you don't read the reality of the situation - she's actually up for it.

So I guess the answer is to stay out of your head, don't bail, and always make an offer/close - ie don't be a pussy - risk outright rejection rather than walk away not knowing whether you were onto a winner or not.