Lets imagine your a caveman... u see a female u want to mate with, in the middle of this another caveman steals her... u accept the loss and look for another female to rape... your veiw is INSTINCTIVE to mate with whatever you can... this is animal..

now as humans we have grown PERSONALITIES, consisting of control issues, ego, fear of loss... and a multitude of new issues with media & sex

u want her so bad as by not getting her is loss of control on your part tied in with the idea that if you got her you would then be the best.

sometimes its not about who is the better person u or him, but circumstance.

so there is no detriment on your self. imagine you had got her, then let her go... you would not feel bad.... its only because it was out of your control!! we as males are predominantly control freaks... if you can learn to accept some things are just out of your control then it helps a massive deal...

GO TO GOOGLE, LOOK AT A PIC OF THE EARTH FROM SPACE... MAKES U REALISE HOW INSIGNIFICANT UR PROBLEMS REALLY ARE