Read books... and basically it has been said somewhere that - SILENCE IS NOT YOUR ENEMY... you have to use it for ur advantage, by mastering feelings and mb even some kino/k-close in the moment when it starts
Hope it helps...
Cheers
LL
"When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues" - Balzac