Good post! Rings true a lot of it, but I'm not sure what you're getting at when you say 'you are the selector', and 'she doesn't want to be the selector'. I think in a healthy social interaction between a man and a woman, both parties have to select each other other wise it wouldn't be consensual. Although we have to make a considerably larger amount of effort when we meet a woman for the first time, the selection process is a two way thing. Obviously if you are a confident person you are going to have more options, but only because them options have selected you.