Thanks for the replies.

I'll definitely be posting questions on here.

The interactions are Tinder dates - not my first choice but obviously has been the only show in town. I've started getting out to bars again and gotten a few numbers. Tbh I think I have the same problem in bars, it's just masked by the fact that if I talk to 30 women in a night, the stars might align for one, which papers over the cracks as it were.

My problem is, I'm failing and getting virtually no feedback. From my point of view, many of these dates seem to be going well. Good flirting/teasing, good conversation, connection, escalation, kissing, even lays. But then comes the inevitable ghosting, or the message saying there was "no spark". So clearly they're not going as well as I think. That means I have a blind spot and I need some help uncovering what it is.

Also glad to hear there's still at least one guy on the scene locally Dan. I'd be up for trying to get it up and running again!