No. There are no quick-fix solutions for this game of pick up. Cefai's little quip is a good safety net, and I'd recommend you give it a go. It'll help you plough through sets and it will improve your game to an extent.

However, you need to look at the bigger picture. These magic pills are usually the ticket to short-term gain but rarely solve the root of the problem. In this case it's your inner game and fundemental self-confidence. Developing this is a difficult long-term process, and one that +90% of the guys on here are constantly working on. Achievement of this goal will make you realise you can say anything you like. If you say it with enough confidence and conviction, she will respond to it. Your stronger reality will win. If anything, she will be more attracted to you for having the confidence to impose your reality on her.

Hope this helps dude. As for short-term solutions, try resorting back to opinion openers. Anything will do - "Who do you think would win in a fight between Margaret Thatcher and the Queen?" "If you could go anywhere for a holiday, where would you go?"

As for developing inner game towards a long-term solution, check out RSD's stuff. Their Blueprint is fantastic.