i'm going to comment on 3. as this has been a massive epiphany to me lately.

i've started, within the first couple of minutes of conversation, we talk about where we're going to get married.

"[name]...... where shall we go for our wedding? i'm thinking tropical island in thailand... no wait! hawaii! yeah thats it.. hawaii. we'll get some hulla girls, a hog spit roast over a fire ...... we'll get you one of those awesome flower necklass things too!"

Every time i've talked about our wedding in the first few minutes its turned into a date. I also try to be really visually descriptive when roll playing these scenarios. talk about the sand, stars, people, music.. really paint the picture.


I'd also like to add..


6. Cocky/Funny .. and plenty of banter. Keep the conversation fun, playful and feisty! Even when building comfort, I tend throw in a bit of banter here and there.