Hey, so I'm in a relationship, months in and I want her to make some decisions/take some actions. What to do to get her to make those decisions is my issue.

She's married, we're not official. She won't tell her family, not many friends and certainly not him. I started seeing her months ago, known her a while longer and since two months after seeing me she's split with her husband. It's been in the post but she wouldn't have if not for seeing me.

She's adamant she wants out of this situation and I believe her 100%
She is a great mum and scared she won't be able to provide what they want/need etc.


Shes scared to death of change.

My question is what can I say or do or what game can I play, as such, to get her to out us, or feel the need to deal with this? I don't really want to give her an ultimatum if possible as she is really struggling already, although maybe I should, I don't know??

Advice??

Hench