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Originally Posted by poolek
So I'm with my GF for around year exclusive now. First few months were great, great sex everywhere, anytime etc. Right now we already had 2 arguments, because she started to not like this and that. For example, she don't like it in the morning anymore when she start doing sth. Or she likes to start only in one position because otherwise she feel pain as my dick is too big. Or she will tell me before sex that she wants slow sex this time. Or she's not gonna have sex now until she will wash herself. Like she is all the time making sex so predictable. Before I slowly, romantically fucked her in bedroom, and next day I ripped her pants of in the kitchen and destroyed her pussy. I just don't get it why she changed so much about sex and I can't be dictating terms and being dominant. She only says she's not dominant because I'm telling her what position now, or I'll tell her suck my dick or stuff. But I don't have this unpredictable sex anymore, It's like she will plan everything now before, and it's boring. Yesterday we had conversation about it and of course argument, which I ended because she started to raise her voice etc so I've said we will talk when she will calm down. I really feel bad about it, I told her about everything and If our sex will be predictable this won't work, because boring and predictable sex leads to bad things in relationship. But she seems not to get it, telling me ''I cannot even say what I like ?''. When in reality most of the stuff before sex she will plan, and I don't even enjoy it. Even she's gonna decide how long sex will last, because after she had 2 orgasms she cant take it anymore and I need to come because she's not handling it. Seriously Im very sexual person, I could be having all kinds of sex everywhere anytime, and that situation really frustrates me.
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Every half decent relationship is best sexually for the 1st 12/18 months. Then once the "honey moon period" has died down, the dust settles & true personality traits are revealed. This is very normal!
What are your priorities?
Do you prioritise an adventurous sex life above other important factors in a long term relationship? Because it would appear, from what little you have wrote, you do & your partner does not.
If you and your partners priorities differ largely after the "honey moon period". I'm afraid you are left with very few options. You could thoughtfully negotiate a compromise in sexual preferences to suit the both of you. Alternatively, you could rearrange your own priorities (This works better if your emotionally mature). Or you could both break up and find more suitable partners.
What you should never do is try to make her feel bad about what she wants now & try to manipulate her into doing everything you want. That would be a complete douche move & will no doubt end up in an unfair, unequal, controlling relationship. Or even worse, a messier break up further on down the line.