If you don't already have the skills you have to work on things consciously for them to become unconscious, automatic or authentic.

That's how you develop skills.

unconscious incompetence - don't know you're shit at something.
conscious incompetence - Now you know you're shit.
conscious competence - Got skills but you still have to think about it.
unconscious competence - Becomes natural, authentic, automated.

This also applies to basic applied psychology techniques for being a good conversationalist.

You manipulate people whenever you talk to them, when you smile at someone, it's a complete misconception that manipulation is a bad word. Hypnosis is demonised as well by those who believe what they see on TV.