Thanks for all the input guys...!
Jaz - I think you are right about girls secretly looking for a partner altho I have been honest from the very start. Next time Im gonna thread carefully and yes, very them. It is an added complication but it is so necessary..!

K-dog - THANK YOU! Im still reading through your post and trying to digest everything you said (wrote)..! Your 4 rules are ace...! So much so that I have since texted Shell and told her she needed to see other guys too...! Whether she does or not, I dont know. I just hate the fact that I upset girls but as other things in life, it will past as you have said. Thanks again for the input. I will defo follw these golden rules..! Nice one!

Dolphin - Glad to know you been there too..!

Katya - Thanks for that female perspective...! I will have to be careful next time and thread carefully. I guess I need to re-iterate time and time again that Im not after a serious relationship and as K said, be totall straight with the girl.

Thanks again folks...!!