Hay Kowalski / Stein,
Thank you for your replies.
Kowalski, there is definite freedom in what you say... I managed to get back to basics and gain a clear perspective again with your comment.

Stein, I guess my social anxiety is an issue so had tried to find means to appease it in the situation of meeting girls. But I take on board what you say about not worrying about being present and a 'Trial and error' approach is probably the simplest means? Thank you