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Default Feel uncomfortable when alone for a while in clubs and bars - 18-06-2018, 09:12 PM

When I'm out in a club or bar and I'm by myself for a while I find it hard to stay relaxed. This often happens after a conversation finishes and I don't have the safety net of a mate to return to or see anyone else I can start talking to.

I start to get very conscious of being alone, get into my head and if I stay like this for long become hesitant in approaching. As a knock on effect, when I manage to approach again I find myself coming off as a bit desperate or needy as I'm too keen to start talking or stay in a conversation.

The social pressure of being by myself can get a bit overbearing and a few times I've had to leave the venue to release the pressure.

In situations when I know I have a mate to return to or nearby, I feel a lot more relaxed.

Does anyone have any tips on how to get over this? I am fairly sure it is a mindset thing but I'm struggling with it at the moment.
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Default 19-06-2018, 03:15 PM

Are you having a drink when you are out?

Solo game is awesome in small doses, really builds your character. I've had some great times out on my own and pulled many times in doing so.
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Default 19-06-2018, 09:10 PM

Yeah I normally have at least a few drinks.

Ideally that's the stage I'd like to get to but at the moment I'm just freaking out too easily. Even when I'm out with a mate and they disappear for a good while I catch myself going into my head.
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