Feel uncomfortable when alone for a while in clubs and bars -
18-06-2018, 09:12 PM
When I'm out in a club or bar and I'm by myself for a while I find it hard to stay relaxed. This often happens after a conversation finishes and I don't have the safety net of a mate to return to or see anyone else I can start talking to.
I start to get very conscious of being alone, get into my head and if I stay like this for long become hesitant in approaching. As a knock on effect, when I manage to approach again I find myself coming off as a bit desperate or needy as I'm too keen to start talking or stay in a conversation.
The social pressure of being by myself can get a bit overbearing and a few times I've had to leave the venue to release the pressure.
In situations when I know I have a mate to return to or nearby, I feel a lot more relaxed.
Does anyone have any tips on how to get over this? I am fairly sure it is a mindset thing but I'm struggling with it at the moment.