So, you have snagged a woman on POF or wherever and you are swapping messages and getting along, built up a bit of a rapport etc - so how do you take it to the next level.

I came up with this years ago and if I told you just how many times this has worked you would not believe me! I have met up with women for the VERY FIRST TIME and been having sex with them within 15 minutes! Many many times. I realise that this is a bold claim, but try it out for yourselves. I used to just call this "The Game" but in recent years that has taken on a different meaning, so now I call it "The Getting to Know You Game"

You need to start chatting with your target online in real time rather than swapping messages (Skype, Yahoo chat, Facebook chat etc)

Once chatting I ask them if they want to play a game. This is usually met with a raised eyebrow and a look of suspicion. That suspicion is soon dispelled when I tell them it’s just a little getting to know you game. The idea is, I ask them any question, they have to answer, then they ask me any question and I have to answer, the only rule is that you can’t ask the same question straight back. Now before you get ahead of yourselves here and think you have got this all figured out already let me stop you and tell you that you are wrong!! The idea is for you to absolutely NOT talk about sex! Ask her about all her favourite things (movies, food, music etc), as this does two things. First of all it puts her in a very positive frame of mind as she is constantly thinking about things she loves, and secondly it gives you a chance to build rapport with all this useful information (“Oh really? I love Italian food too” etc), thus associating yourself with many of her favourite things. This actually makes you more attractive to her. Ask her about her family and her life (while her head is telling her “wow this guy really understands me and is interested in me”), throw in a few silly questions to make her laugh, or ask her about things that will make her laugh (“What is the most embarrassing thing you have done?) as laughter is an enormous aphrodisiac.

Still do NOT ask about anything sexual.

The idea is the longer you play this game the harder it becomes to think of original questions and sooner or later SHE will turn the subject to sex!! How quickly that happens can vary, but it always does. You need to make her run out of questions until she raises the subject (so make sure you have loads of questions ready). It will start with something reasonably tame like “where is the weirdest place you have ever had sex?” At this point you laugh and actually show a little reluctance. You might say something like “this conversation could get quite naughty, are you sure you want me to answer that?”, at which point she will say yes.

You may not realise from a psychological point of view what has just happened here, but it is MASSIVE. This line of conversation was now HER idea! You gave her the chance to stop but she has just consciously decided to continue. Psychologically speaking this is the perfect set up!

So you answer her question, don’t go into graphic detail or use any words like pussy, clit, cock etc, remember you are a nice guy and this is going to be a gradual thing. So now the subject of sex has been broached it is your turn to ask a question. Again, don’t go straight in for the kill will “so do you take it in the ass?” or other such things, a good first questions are “So what are your turn ons?”. Listen carefully because you are about to be given some gold, but what she tells you is probably going to only be half the story, she won’t be ready to tell you the REALLY naughty stuff just yet. From here on in you will find that the questions tend to get naughtier and naughtier but it is important to let her set the level of how graphic it gets, if this was a waltz it would be her leading – that cannot be stressed enough. And remember, this isn’t a sordid or sleazy conversation, it is supposed to be fun, you should be laughing at times and making little jokes.
One of the key questions I like to ask is “Tell me what you DON’T like?” this answers a lot of questions without you asking them. If for example you wanted to know if she was into anal sex, you don’t have to ask her directly, you just use this question. If she doesn’t mention anal as a dislike it is far safer to mention it later without it being too weird or sleazy. Whatever they come out with, always ask if there is anything else, if they say no I tend to say “What? So you would be cool with someone taking a dump on you?” as a bit of a joke and to get a laugh (never met anyone who said yes, something which I am quite glad about), but this has the effect of making them consider some of the more “out there” practices. I don’t personally consider say anal sex for example as being “out there” but some do so it is good to know where you stand without making it seem too much of an issue. Another question I like is “Tell me your fantasy, and I mean your naughtiest one, I don’t care how perverted it is or how many goats it involves”. In this question you are kind of making a joke at the same time encouraging her to tell you what REALLY gets her off while showing how open minded you are. Use with caution if you’re not very open minded though! You need to show her you are unshockable and someone she can talk to.

Now it is time to plant some suggestions….

You will invariably be asked at some point in this conversation about your turn ons. The first and crucial answer I give is an honest one for me..

Nothing turns me on more than making a woman cum!!!

Now if this isn’t true for you say it anyway! Women generally will not be used to hearing this. I then elaborate a little something along the lines of “and I don’t mean just a normal orgasm, I mean crazy lose your mind whole body orgasms, over and over again, really intense orgasm that just don’t stop”. Just have a think about that for a moment. What do you think is going through her head right at that moment? Imagine a woman saying something that to a guy. Would you be thinking “Holy shit, I need to get me some of that!”?

Yes, me too!

From here it is plain sailing....... use wisely my friends!

Really like it.
Nice strategy and ideas here.

I have to agree, I think there is some really good information here.

I'll definitely be using the "how many goats it involves" line. haha

"Nothing makes me cum more than making a girl cum"

That whole line sums up what you've just written Loki. Your whole everything is to please her. How many more steps up the ladder do you want to put her?

Me and my girlfriend live in different countries, we use skype and facebook to chat most of the time. We practically built oir relationship up over chatting and I cant tell you right now that no matter what you do, if you're not authentic in yourself when you do it, then it will not work or will work temporarily.