You have your material , you feel confident that if you could just walk over and start you would easily lock in and become the focus of the group . But you can't bring yourself to approach , not a problem , this is how i destroyed that .
Ill be perfectly honest , when i sarge i really peacock , most likely ill wear a cowboy hat , some form of scarf of boa , bracelets , eye liner and the reason i started doing this is to overcome that fear of being different . And you know what ? .. It worked , i had girls approaching me left and right wanted to wear my hat and my tie and toching my bracelets . And while this helped i also came up with a method to smash Approach Anxiety .

1) I put myself if their position , if someone approached me in the club with an honest opener , i woudln't have any reason to not reply (after the reply its down to you guys to build intrest and comfort)

2) No one is looking at you , even if you think they are , if you go into a club and approach your gonna feel like everyone in the room is looking to see if you crash and burn ... They're not ! If im in a club with friends , a guy going up to a set is the last thing im looking for , after all i dont know if he knows them or not

3) The basis of this is , put yourself in their position , people are always to quick to jump to the worst senario but in reality , 95 % of people couldnt care less what you get up to as it doesn't involve them (people are selfish lol)

All im saying guys is dont be so worried , ''Put yourself in their position'' get over yourselves haha

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true. The amount of times I've done something stupid and thought I've made myself look like a complete cock, but then I try and think of when my mates have made themselves look like a cock. I can't think of any times. Cos I only focus on myself!

Nobody notices or remembers other peoples embarrassments, you just notice and remember your own...