Attitude, presence, entering the scene, approaching, opener

[DuncanButlin]

Awake slowly, rehearsing the day’s main challenges, and don’t hurry your breakfast routine. Repeat to yourself: “the sex war is real, all those lovely ladies are the enemy, and they are all out to get me”. Dress appropriately, plan your route, gather your belongings, shine your shoes ... you are ready to leave the house. Gird your loins -- briefcase in one hand, balls in the other -- and sally forth in gay abandon. Remember: ‘Today is a good day to die’. If you are not ready to risk everything in an instant your presence will be insignificant. Stride, posture, gesture, gaze ... all must challenge every man and woman you meet. Every enemy trooper must be looked straight in the eye.

Pause when entering spaces, and survey the lie of the land — assess enemy strength and disposition. Stance, head-angle and gait when passing through doorways are particularly important -- keep your eyes above horizontal, surveying the scene. If you bow your head you are submitting to the dominance of others. The strength of your entrance can make or break any subsequent conversation -- for hours afterwards. You cannot fully recover your presence, after a spoilt entrance.

Keep silent as you approach her, looking steadfastly at her eyes. Your approach is your first utterance -- your act of dominance -- so you must wait for her to reply. This means she must speak first -- you would otherwise be speaking out of turn. Speaking out of turn destroys the conversation on the spot. She may well not reply at all, or she will continue, but it will only be idle chatter -- she has lost interest in you. In other words speak twice and you’ve lost her.

Ask her how she is -- she will reply by asking you too. Notice you must keep leading her. If she falls silent after you’ve spoken, for God’s sake keep quiet. She is doing you the great honour of digesting what you’ve just said. Keep silent for a hundred years, if necessary.

Start politely by talking of something inconsequential like the weather. At all costs avoid starting a sentence with a qualifier. I think … , I’ve got a theory that … , I wonder if … , can you imagine … my opinion is … all reveal you are unsure of yourself. Take it in turns, matching length of utterances. Slowly lengthen them as you grow more confident, still only saying what you know to be true.

When you feel you are ready it’s time to switch horses. Freedom of speech is the opposite of politeness -- it’s the freedom to shock and be rude. Say the most outrageous yet truthful thing you dare say in a few seconds, and wait patiently for her reply. Keep your mouth shut. When she replies it will be to ask a question, or she will amaze you -- that is if she has not run out the door. Not only will she have understood your idea completely, but she will extend it right before your very eyes. Yes, she knows your own idea better than you do. I have no idea how that could be, but it is true. Given her contribution, you can extend it even further. If you can stand it, keep on talking for a million years.

Once you have mastered the above, get married and join the Suffrageur Society.

[Stein]

Originally Posted by DuncanButlin

Keep silent as you approach her, looking steadfastly at her eyes. Your approach is your first utterance -- your act of dominance -- so you must wait for her to reply. This means she must speak first -- you would otherwise be speaking out of turn. Speaking out of turn destroys the conversation on the spot. She may well not reply at all, or she will continue, but it will only be idle chatter -- she has lost interest in you. In other words speak twice and you’ve lost her.

Utter bollocks.

[DuncanButlin]

All of it is utter bollocks?

[VibeSpreader]

Hahahahahaha!!! 5*s, I feel like you'd enjoy making a short film of this, with 'O Fortuna' playing in the background.

I checked out your boys club-

Number of Registered Pledges, 2

Have you got a target to double in size by 2021?

[jamesfreeman]

Quite sociopathic. Very American psycho like...

[Jeepster]

Keep silent as you approach her, looking steadfastly at her eyes. Your approach is your first utterance -- your act of dominance -- so you must wait for her to reply. This means she must speak first -- you would otherwise be speaking out of turn. Speaking out of turn destroys the conversation on the spot. She may well not reply at all, or she will continue, but it will only be idle chatter -- she has lost interest in you. In other words speak twice and you’ve lost her.

Originally Posted by Stein

Utter bollocks.

I agree, this approach would make you look like some sort of mental case, may work in Hollywood, I guess.

A better way, which I like to do is to approach from the side, far less intimidating and threatening.

Open with a mild matter of fact validation comment, mild as not to give your power away by sounding too needy, too interested or putting her on a pedestal, NEVER give full validation. No canned opinion operners, I hate them they to me sound too cheesy and fake and women can see right through them.

I would notice something about her either physically or what she is wearing and casually comment as if I had just noticed it. e.g.....

"I like your blah blah blah by the way, it suits you" smilling as I said it,(your pulling her in)then i would turn my head away as if it was a passing comment. (Your pushing her away) I can usually gauge her frame of mind by her reply with this method, I can then decide to continue on my original comment and work on building rapport if she is receptive to my comment by investing in conversation, or if its a hostile reply and I feel it may be just a bitch shield and go for a neg off my complimentary comment, or simply save face by walking away as all I have done is paid a harmless compliment.

[fluineinvones]

My wife, a few weeks ago mentioned going back to Cebu for the Sinulog Festival and the Talisay Fiesta.......

I only said..... I will miss you...

[99AcTaRuS99]

Women are there to get you. Really! I, we, are the the one chasing them. We are the one approaching and engaging them in order to get intimate, aren't we?

They are the enemy? So, why do you give advices on engaging, impressing them (the enemy) in order to be intimate with them? If they really are the enemy as you said the best thing is to ignore them and use prostitutes. Plus, you forgot to mention that there are no general rules that work with all women (of every age, every social background, education, culture and I can go on for ever).

Women are neither bad or good (as we are), they are just women, we just have to understand them and deal with them so we keep the lead (and our happiness) in the relationship.

[Dr_Zed]

AcTaRuS - DuncunButlin is a well respected person here, hence his profile title. Unfortunately, he hasn't been back for a while so we don't get to read any more of his funny stories...

[99AcTaRuS99]

Hi,
I did not disrespect him. I only criticise his arguments, and I wish he would answer. I don't care about people's reputation as I consider that people are only worth their last actions.
Peace!