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I just love this. I'm sure a lot of you guys are already familiar with it, but it could be useful for anybody who is not.

I just discovered it myself and am going to read it every day, especially just before I go out.

I found that I already do a lot of these things, but others need working on.

I have no idea where it comes from, I just found it on an Italian forum.

THE 55 LAWS OF THE ALPHA MALE:

1. Always take up a lot of space. Beta-males always shrink up as if
they were apologizing for their own personal waste of space. Be
territorial. Claim it because you own it.
2. Be calmer than everyone around you. Stress (talking about it or
showing it) is an indicator of Beta-male status. Be unaffected by what
others are affected by. Heat, sweat, cold, stress, etc…Leaders are
aloof and confident.
3. Slow down body movements. Visualize moving in a pool. Relax your
eyelids.
4. Resist the fear that you will piss people off. Be willing to be
distracted when someone is talking to you. Be willing to take the lead
and end the conversation when you want to. You should be the
initiator for most conversations too.
5. STOP trying to please everyone and make him or her like you. Start
qualifying everyone and don't give any fake smiles, laughs or gestures
until they EARN IT!
6. Develop a sense of impudence: Take liberties you know you deserve.
7. Know your own worth. When someone does you a favor or gives you something, don't over appreciate. Know that you deserved it and you had it coming from them. Act as though it is expected when people
help, do favors and give things to you. Set boundaries and limitations
on what you will tolerate from others.
8. Confidence: This is simply freedom from self-doubt, and having
strong beliefs in your own actions, words and abilities. Don't
over-analyze this.
9. Be supportive of `lesser' males. Aggression is never a good idea.
Use praise instead. Make sure your friends are safe and they see you
ensuring their safety.
10. Smile less often. It doesn't make you rude, just discerning.
People should earn your smiles and laughs. Give them as rewards when people win you over.
11. Don't EVER act apologetic. Don't use excuses or feel the need to
explain your actions….EVER!
12. Time with you is valuable and rare…you are busy and focused on
yourself.
13. Frame equals mood + beliefs about the current situation. Don't get
sucked into anyone's mood. Pull them into yours, forcefully. Be the
pillar of strength that is unmovable. Why do you think strippers like
those poles so much?
14. If you don't define the meaning of the interaction, the other
person will do it for you.
15. Remain silent every once in a while after someone finishes
talking. Look at them and wait…they will keep talking to make you happy.
16. Speak slowly. You will NOT loose the group's attention.
17. Every once in a while, choose a time for you when you will be
closed off for the day. Just stand in quiet confidence and be as
silent as possible. People will try to get you to talk and wonder
what's up.
18. Don't ever laugh at your own jokes. This kills!
19. Make statements whenever possible. People should have to earn your questions.
20. Don't look around at other people trying to get energy or
attention from them. Your energy is within you. Be in your own
universe, you can have a welcome mat, but others should still be a guest.
21. Hold everyone's attention. If they look away or get distracted, be
the first to walk away, get even more distracted or become immediately busy.
22. ELIMINATE the fear of being the one to break a group's state by
taking the lead and beginning or ending something first so that others
will follow.
23. Make yourself COMFORTABLE. Don't be uncomfortable when speaking to others or groups. Face the direction you feel like facing.
24. Make strong eye contact. You don't have to have a serious face on
when you do this. That's stupid. Smirk a tiny bit like you know more
than they do.
25. Don't try to make people like you…make then think you are from the future- Mystery
26. At the first sign of people's indecision, be the FIRST to speak up
and take action.
27. Don't wait to take control. Seize the opportunity.
28. Out alpha the AMOGS by shoulder taps, friendly elbows, compliments and putting social pressure on him. Social pressure is only using a psychological spotlight.
29. When a competing male tries to challenge you or take control of
the group, ignore him, don't make eye contact, keep your body posture. (Shoulders back and relaxed, head back, smile a little.) Comment when he's finished.
30. Be comfortable having complete control of the group. It is a
responsibility you must take on. Don't be afraid that you will screw
things up.
31. With men: Start qualifying immediately. As soon as you get them to
qualify, compliment them on something and start telling a story before
they can respond.
32. Being in control is simple: It is only about believing fully in
what you are doing. Believe that you have the best plan of action and
no one could possibly do better.
33. If someone says something you don't like, SMILE, roll your eyes a
little and give them a look as if they were a cute little kid.
34. You must be the one who expends the least amount of nervous
energy. You will then be in control. Let others get nervous; wondering
if they are impressing you or not.
35. Be talkative: Say whatever is on your mind and don't worry about
the consequences. Just be a talkative person.
36. Don't be afraid to make others feel bad. If you feel you need to
say something, say it. Don't ever try to camouflage your intent. Be
honest and direct. This will earn you all kinds of respect points.
37. Resist the need to share the intensity of emotions you're feeling.
38. Touch people when you talk to them. Know that it's okay to do.
39. Don't pause too long when someone asks you a question. This
indicates your deep thinking about the question and your need to give
them the best possible answer…stop dong this!
40. Steeple your hands when you speak if you feel like you are getting
a little nervous. This shows LOTS of confidence and is a leader indicator.
41. Don't walk too fast. This is another behavior that is used to
break your own frame. Slow down and relax. Know you are the MAN.
42. Straighten your spine, tilt your pelvis forward, relax and spread
out. Take up space…it's YOURS!!
43. Don't always respond when someone calls your name. When you do respond, turn your head to them slowly.
44. Keep it short and to the point. Don't go into some elaborate and
boring story. (I know you love it, but it's boring)
45. When you ask advice from other people, let them have the
spotlight. Don't be afraid to let someone else stand in the spotlight
for a while. Compliment them when they do.
46. Never stop someone from performing acts of generosity towards you, or be too thankful when they do.
47. Be dominant and in control. If you don't like the
conversation…walk away. Start talking to someone else in the middle of the conversation if you feel like it. You are the alpha and you are in
charge. Regardless of income, rank etc…you are the leader.
48. Don't ever brag about yourself. Not bragging builds mystery. Let
them discover things on their own.
49. Don't EVER put yourself down! Alpha males do not do this unless it
is an OBVIOUS joke! It's okay to make a joke to convey the opposite of what you are saying in the joke.
50. Don't ever put others down or talk badly about someone else!!!
This is key. When you put others down, it reveals your own
insecurities. If they are no threat, don't act like they are. Women
will take up sides with anyone you decide to put down.
51. Live a life of DISCIPLINE AND FUN: The two secret ingredients in
the alpha male's life.
52. If you treat people like they are cooler than you are, you are a
beta-male.
53. If you `put up' with disrespectful behavior, you are a beta-male.
54. Use clean language unless you really have to curse. Profanity is
just like verbal violence: The people who use it are usually totally
insecure and frightened by their lack of dominance.
55. Use violence as a LAST resort. The pack leader of any pack is not
a bully.