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Default Mid 40 year old looking to meet younger women. Can anyone help? - 26-06-2019, 04:36 AM

So I'm mid 40, and for many personal reasons (mostly due to lack of experience when I was younger) I do wish that I could still meet, date, have casual relationships, proper relationships with girls in their 20s. It's just that I don't know where in real life or online life I can still find these girls, I hope someone can advise me how to do this?

I want to be honest with them upfront, I won't lie about my age or what I do etc. (though I am young looking for my age) I want everything to be genuine. But I wonder how someone in their mid 40s can still meet girls early, mid or late 20s that are ok with a man my age or above.

I'm on sites like POF, OKC, I was on Tinder and Bumble etc. but I found that 20 something girls who have their partner age preferences up to 44-47 are incredibly rare.

So where else online would I find a larger abundance of 20 something girls looking for men my age? Any specialist sites of 'younger women looking for older men' or more generic sites that contain more open minded girls like this than what I'm used to. Does anyone else know any places on the internet to find such people?

Likewise as well as for real relationships, even casual hook up sites.

Also with real life, I don't know where I can find such girls. I don't go to bars or clubs really anymore but what types of bars are there where girls are more willing for this, like fetish clubs or places that are more specialist where the females are more open to my age.

I wonder where literally in the world to find such people. What countries where girls are more open to older men, Europe etc. Or what places in the world where holiday resorts are for this. is Ibiza, Thailand, Mexico but what places do other people here know about?

What other types of events or set ups like speed dating are out there that attracts younger girls for men my age?

Anyone with any knowledge of ways or places for older men to meet younger girls online or in real life do please let me know. Thank you for any responses you can give.
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Default 05-07-2019, 03:36 PM

Just start by approaching girls in their 20's that you find attractive. Go to your nearest big city.
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Default 05-07-2019, 06:36 PM

Hey man,

Just thinking straight onto the keyboard...

It's great that you want to be honest. That's a good foundation.

It's ok if you don't wanna go to clubs and that. What interests you? What groups or events are there for enjoying that interest in a non-solitary setting where the might be girls? Or just try out new things where you know there are girls, you might love it, become proficient in it and meet a nice girl who shares your interest. Not going to bars is whatever. But you must put yourself in the same places as other people in some setting you prefer.

It's not a fetish when a girl in her 20s is attracted to a guy in his 40s. Anecdotally, I can say that I think all girls that've ever told me about their sex life (and that have had one worth speaking of) have had at least one serious relationship with a dude in his 40s or 50s and banged several when they were in their 20s... or younger. I'm fairly positive others will have similar anecdotes.

I don't know what shape you are in or all that physical stuff but one should try to keep healthy, in shape and brush up well.

The rest is personality and even more esoteric tat after that which is more a part of your personal journey.


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In my opinion, you need to go to bars. Girls go to bars to get laid. As long as you play it cool, smooth and mature, girls are going to dig it. Make sure you are dressed very well, groomed etc. Girls find mature guys attractive. Especially girls in their 20s since their experience is usually with boys their own age who are immature. Use your age to your advantage. Im 28 and I get with early 20s all the time. Obviously my age difference is less than yours BUT the same principles apply. When they tease me and say "Omg you are so old" .. (I know this is a shit test and they are trying to see if Im confident in myself) , I just turn around lean in slightly and say "Well then you can call me daddy" with a cheeky smirk with complete eye contact. I ONLY do this when the conversation has started off well. It works like a charm.
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Default 22-08-2019, 12:58 PM

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Hey man,

Just thinking straight onto the keyboard...

It's great that you want to be honest. That's a good foundation.

It's ok if you don't wanna go to clubs and that. What interests you? What groups or events are there for enjoying that interest in a non-solitary setting where the might be girls? Or just try out new things where you know there are girls, you might love it, become proficient in it and meet a nice girl who shares your interest. Not going to bars is whatever. But you must put yourself in the same places as other people in some setting you prefer.

It's not a fetish when a girl in her 20s is attracted to a guy in his 40s. Anecdotally, I can say that I think all girls that've ever told me about their sex life (and that have had one worth speaking of) have had at least one serious relationship with a dude in his 40s or 50s and banged several when they were in their 20s... or younger. I'm fairly positive others will have similar anecdotes.

I don't know what shape you are in or all that physical stuff but one should try to keep healthy, in shape and brush up well.

The rest is personality and even more esoteric tat after that which is more a part of your personal journey.


Peace,

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Thanks for your reply here. I will go to bars and clubs if I have to, though right now I prefer not to.

Thanks for the stories of these guys that have banged 20 somethings and lower. It's a revelation for me that is a good shock of a wake up call to the possibility of this.

I'll think of ways to meet girls in real life outside of bars as you say though. Not sure in what ways however.

I'm in ok shape, planning on getting into fitness model shape in a couple of weeks time when I am ready to train again. After that as you say it's a matter of upping my Game.

I wonder if there are online sites that are the best ones for meeting young girls though.
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In my opinion, you need to go to bars. Girls go to bars to get laid. As long as you play it cool, smooth and mature, girls are going to dig it. Make sure you are dressed very well, groomed etc. Girls find mature guys attractive. Especially girls in their 20s since their experience is usually with boys their own age who are immature. Use your age to your advantage. Im 28 and I get with early 20s all the time. Obviously my age difference is less than yours BUT the same principles apply. When they tease me and say "Omg you are so old" .. (I know this is a shit test and they are trying to see if Im confident in myself) , I just turn around lean in slightly and say "Well then you can call me daddy" with a cheeky smirk with complete eye contact. I ONLY do this when the conversation has started off well. It works like a charm.
It may take time but I will start to go to bars. Hard to do when my friends don't go out anymore.

I also wonder what are the best places/resorts/travel and backpacker destinations where it's easier to pull girls, the whole Girls Go Wild in Ibiza thing or something less full on?

I do wonder if I should even lie about my age. It's hard to do. I can't do it if it's for something more serious and with girls with depth and intelligence who I really like.

But for something more casual, I could get away with being 10 years younger in appearance and behaviour. I'm more comfortable doing that.

I just don't know if it's 'right' doing that.

Playing up to my age, that is something I could do if a girl knows my age it's true. Working anything with confidence is just a Win Win isn't it?

I just like to let them know I'm still a youthful at heart fit dude at the same time though.
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Just start by approaching girls in their 20's that you find attractive. Go to your nearest big city.
Thanks man.

Just would be nice to know if a girl finds me attractive before I approach them.

I live in London so I'm in the heart of this place. Approaching girls in the day is tricky, easier at night.

I just find it nearly impossible chatting girls up in the day time though, coffee shops, stores, on the street. Would love to know the art of doing that though!

Mostly chatting to girls on a beach and something coming from that - that is one of my biggest girl dreams.
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Thanks man.

Just would be nice to know if a girl finds me attractive before I approach them.

I live in London so I'm in the heart of this place. Approaching girls in the day is tricky, easier at night.

I just find it nearly impossible chatting girls up in the day time though, coffee shops, stores, on the street. Would love to know the art of doing that though!

Mostly chatting to girls on a beach and something coming from that - that is one of my biggest girl dreams.
Yeh I know what you mean, it's nice to know if a girl is interested sometimes. But then sometimes you'll need to build attraction. I'm intrigued by doing day game. So it could be one thing to consider. I've tried to give it a although thus far failed miserably. As in, the approach anxiety got me and didn't even approach! Anyway I'm going to give it a go again. Maybe in the Midlands where I'm based or in London (an hour on the train). Btw sent you a pm.
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