The truth is to get over an ex the best thing to do is not have contact and don't think about them. Over time you will grow apart naturally. The is nothing to do, the is nothing to work at, let them know gently that being on social media/facebook is not a good idea for this reason. I have found that the more amicable you can make the break up the better is it as the will be less thoughts running around the conflict with who you think you are. Let them know you wish them the best in life and hope they will be happy.

I did find getting laid helpful also

Great thread lads, some top advice, especial from the OP.

To the lad Dan - yup....we all have a regretful 'dump' - some worse than others. There's an element of Karma about it too I'm sure (if you believe in that sorta thing). You just can't dwell on it.....it's your fault. Try to forget and move on - there's no other way.

There is only one way and that is time. You can try a million ways to try and ease the pain, but at the end of the day its only time that heals, the memories and pain will fade over time as sure as your holiday tan does.

Moving away is the best approach ! Done that too

Unfortunately I have never had an ex partner! Though I have come very close to getting a relationship with a woman several times over the past 40 years.

You mention online dating! I tried online dating on and off for about 9 years and got nowhere with it. In all that time I only got six dates in total and none of those led to either a relationship or sex! In my opinion online dating is totally rubbish!

Then you're not doing it right. Online dating is largely about marketing yourself in an attractive/edgy fashion.

The first dating website that I joined was a free one back in January called WooWho.com which closed down many years ago! I sent out hundreds of message but rarely ever even got a reply. Then I found out why! It was because there were about four times as many men on there as women! And that is a big problem with almost all dating websites! That means that women on there are spoilt for choice and men have a massive uphill struggle to meet any women from there.

Well, why don't you post your photographs here StoneCastle and maybe we could give you some online dating advice?