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Just an article I wrote on my new site. Credit to Jason Capital for some of this - I turned a couple of his ideas into my own, and added extra. Check my website ipickupwomen.com (can't post a link for some reason, would be grateful if somebody could show me how) ENJOY:

Never Run Out of Things To Say When Talking To A Girl

Do you always find yourself too scared to approach a woman because you fear that you might not know what to say? Maybe you approach, but freak out at the first awkward silence? Allow me to teach you how to not only ALWAYS know what to say but to make the most out of the very rare occasion that you do experience an “awkward” silence.

Most guys standards are too high

Now, don’t get confused. I don’t mean the standard of girls that you’re approaching. I mean the standard of conversation that you’d consider acceptable. The things you’d consider as acceptable things to say. The point I’m trying to make here is that you should say whatever the f*ck you want. Want to talk about sports? Do it. Want to talk about her ass? Do it. Don’t spend the whole conversation awkwardly searching your head for the “right” thing to say. Just say what you feel. Who cares if she doesn’t like it? Shes only human, so talk to her like one.

Not knowing how to relate on an emotional level with her

This seems like a tricky one, but it’s not. It’s actually very simple. When a girl tells you something about herself, don’t just reply with “That’s cool” or some other boring response. Add to it. Think of the emotions that shes putting out there. Lets say for example, if she says “I just got back from Turkey. I was so scared, was my first holiday without my parents.” She’s telling you (not in as many words) that she did something out of her comfort zone. She was scared, but she clearly had a good time. Why not, instead of “That’s cool.” say something like “No way, that’s cool. That reminds me of this time when I….” and talk about a time that YOU did something out of your comfort zone. Even if it’s completely different, just say it – you’re RELATING with the EMOTIONS that she felt. I just want to say, girls bang guys that they have deep, emotional conversations with. Think about that one. ;)

Guys who are worrying too much about how shes reacting to what they say

This is quite simple too. Don’t say something then wait around for her reply. That’s just awkward. Don’t wait for her to laugh at your jokes, you don’t need her approval – you know you’re hilarious, right!? When she senses that you don’t need her approval, it implies that she needs yours instead. Again, say the things that YOU want to say. Who cares if she disagrees? That just creates an opportunity to playfully tease and challenge her. I’m not saying that it’s a bad thing if she has a noticable reaction to something you say. It’s actually the opposite. Women are attracted to guys that they NATURALLY react to. Don’t force it though, too obvious. You just really have to be amusing and indifferent to what she’ll think of you for saying certain things. Nothing is more attractive than indifference. Sometimes she’ll love what you say, sometimes she’ll hate it. THAT is what makes you different from the pleasers or the dickheads. You’re unpredictable!

A couple of tips to help you along the way

Say something a little goofy

If you feel like you’re running out of things to say just come out with something dorky like “I’m psychic” and play along with it. If she tests you, just be chilled and playfully tease her with some snap cold reads. What are snap cold reads? Here are some examples.. “You seem like a girl who’s spent a lot of time in detention at school.” you can say she seems like whatever you want her to “seem” like, she’ll either agree cause she likes you, disagree to test you or just be intrigued as to what made you say that. Works every time! This makes it about YOU and HER. This is where seduction works best. It’s not a question, you’re TELLING her what she seems like. It makes you look like you’re paying attention to her. It makes her feel like you really get her. Shes going to want to know how you possibly knew that, even if you’re wrong. She’ll still want to know what makes you think that! Another example that you could say is… “I feel like you hate Justin Bieber as much as I do” again, make your own up. It doesn’t have to be anything to do with Justin Bieber. She can’t argue with how you FEEL as you’re not asking how she feels, you’re telling her how you feel.

Push & pull behaviour

Basically show interest, then back away, show more, then back away again. It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. Play on that! Another example of push & pull behaviour would be disqualifying her in a joking way… “You’re a really fun girl, really interesting. Just a shame you’re too short for me” – PUSH/PULL! She’ll be thinking “Too short? No I’m not, I’m just the right height for you” (Trying to win your approval, if you didn’t notice.) Another way to back off a little would be to face her, then turn to the side during the conversation as if you’re losing a little interest. It’s fine to show interest, but keep a balance. Don’t be overly eager, but don’t be a dick!

Try this out, see what happens ;)

Good luck!

-J.Daniels