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Hydro 29-05-2013 02:42 PM

How to Set Up a Date.
 
The dating world is crazy complicated. It looks easy until you’re in the middle of it all and than you look at it like, “Damn, this sh*t is CRAZY!” Everybody has their own little weird rules that they make up for themselves or that they “think” people should do. Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s all bullshit.

I know I say this a lot in my posts but it’s true. If one of my friends say, “If he doesn’t text me during the day…” or “If she doesn’t do what I’ve done for her…” it’s already game over.

Stop with all these weird rules. All those things should be IDEAS or GUIDELINES to use when dating but never set in stone. Do you know how many dates or good people they’ve passed up because of these little weird rules they set for themselves? LOTS!

If a girl flakes, who cares, if she doesn’t answer her phone, who cares. Guys that are new to this dating stuff need to be talking to quite a few women anyways. I’m not saying to become a womanizer but when you’re talking to a few women at a time all your eggs aren’t in one basket and you start to get a feel for what it’s like to have an ABUNDANCE mentality when it comes to dating and women.

When I was hanging out with my buddies and we were always going out to bars and clubs 5-7 nights a week, we’d meet new guys all the time and as soon as one of them would meet a girl BAM! We’d never see them again until the girl broke their heart.

Want to know what broke them up? Their insecurities and neediness they didn’t fix.

I went off in a little tangent but today I’m going to cover how to set up a date from beginning to end.

Remember, you want to be COMFORTABLE when you’re on your dates so when you do these dates, do them over and over so it’s a routine.

Literally do it over so you know what works and what doesn’t work. Does texting or calling for the date work better for you… does texting for the date and calling once work better than calling every night?

Yes, know it like that.

If you’re not comfortable when you go on your dates and you’re still getting mad nervous you might lose the girl after the date. When you’re in YOUR WORLD and having FUN the girl(s) will enjoy themselves more and more than likely will go on a second date with you.

It’s great isn’t it?

I’m going to take you through having places to go, all the way to that fist text/call. Why am I starting backwards? Like I said, you want to have this stuff down.

The first thing you want to do is have a place you go all the time. You want to have that social-proof. When you walk into a place and you know the employees, the locals and the manager it helps with the girl not looking at you like a weirdo. You’re actually socially acceptable, lol.

One key thing that always helps me is thinking, “I bet the reason her and her ex broke up was because he was a jealous, insecure, needy and anti social guy.” If I’m none of those I’m in. Kind of delusional but hey, it helps me get through meeting and going on dates with chicks.

Whether you already go to a place all the time or you want to try a new place, just make it “your spot”. Have a few different places like this for your first few dates… after that you should know whether or not you want to start seeing the chick or if you two will click.

Find places that are close to your pad. Not only does it make it easy for you but just in case you two really hit if off, it’s not that far of a drive back to the pad to have a little more fun.


Here’s a few quick ideas for dates…

Ice Skating

Miniature Golfing

Laser tag

Go to a sports event

Bowling

Go to a mom and pop coffee shop and get to know one another

Have a backwards date – doing everything you’d normally do but do it backwards

Go to a restaurant and only order appetizers


Now back to setting this whole thing up.

Nowadays everybody communicates through texting WAY more than we ever have… it can be annoying sometimes, I know. You will occasionally run into a chick that says, “I hate texting,” so now you know to not text her and give her a ring.

So for the sake of this article I’m going to go over setting it up through text message.

When you get a girls number you want to shoot her a text either that same night or the next day (given how you met her) with online dating you want to shoot her a text an hour or two after you get the number so you don’t come off like a needy freak.

After you text her you want to set up the date as soon as possible… remember, she is on a dating site so she’s actively looking to date, find a boyfriend all that fun stuff. So setting up the date fast shouldn’t be a problem.

One thing I highly recommend is calling her AT LEAST once before the date. When you call her, flirt, poke fun at her and tease… all that fun stuff.

Two to three minutes is all you need really.

You want to get her attracted and make her think, “This guy’s fun.” Totally helps build more attraction and sets the tone for how you are, plus you two get to hear one another so there’s some familiarity.

Now, don’t think that just because you set up the date you don’t have to contact her anymore, you need to ping (text) her daily.

I’m not saying have full blown conversations with her, but shoot her a fun and random text.

It’s letting her know you were thinking about her without saying, “Thinking of you.”

Okay…

Here’s how you do it.

Set up the date ASAP through text (since you met her through a dating site)
Call her at least once before the date
Ping her daily until you actually go on the date
Have your “regular” venues you take chicks where you know everybody

Now that you know the process that my close buddies and I use all the time, make sure to do this until the staff or the locals notice you always coming in with a different chick.

If you’re in the process of getting dates, start going to places regularly to build that social proof so by the time the dates start rolling in you’re already known by everybody.

See what works and what doesn’t work for you. Does texting or calling her work better for you… does holding long conversations or short conversations work best? Test is all out.



Have fun you handsome bastards!



-Hydro

Shahanshah 29-05-2013 04:56 PM

Its not this difficult.

Hydro 29-05-2013 05:07 PM

Thanks for reading, mang!

Phil 29-05-2013 05:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hydro (Post 76794)
Thanks for reading, mang!

just looked at that man of hype website. not one of the girls on the photos r fit.

advice on getting gremlins into bed is not worth paying for

Shahanshah 29-05-2013 05:22 PM

Ahh you have a website where you have to pay for it, thats why its so complicated ;)

face 29-05-2013 06:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shahanshah (Post 76797)
Ahh you have a website where you have to pay for it, thats why its so complicated ;)

Hydro pops in now and again letting us know the pua industry is still profitable

Lovefish 29-05-2013 09:22 PM

Geez this guy is STILL coming on here peddling his wares.
At least theres no video of his boyfriend this time:rolleyes:

nova 30-05-2013 10:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phil (Post 76796)
just looked at that man of hype website. not one of the girls on the photos r fit.

advice on getting gremlins into bed is not worth paying for

Taking them ice skating on dates... I wonder if they'd even 'let' him lay them.

Phil 30-05-2013 11:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nova (Post 76835)
Taking them ice skating on dates... I wonder if they'd even 'let' him lay them.

actually, my mate always uses ice skating as a ploy to bed women.

1. makes a date to go ice skating in like 4 weeks times so they think he is some outside the box thinking guy.

2. INvites them to have cocktails in his that weekend. bangs them fucks them off.

Re-cycle.

different date ideas work. women like the idea of somethin new

nova 30-05-2013 11:38 AM

Sounds like a lot of effort to me. I've recently found the less effort i make, the more likely I am to bed the girl.


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