I think we should treat our lives like we do to our songs.
 

If you’re like me you have some kind of music storage device like an iPod, mp3 player or just your phone. If you’re like me you will have almost limitless capacity for the songs you want to listen to. I personally have 1774 songs on my phone made of numerous albums of many different genres. I can honestly say I’ve only listened to a few hundred of these songs with the rest made of songs by the same artist or in the same genre that I’ve not had chance to listen to yet.

Of these songs there are some that I think are amazing. Songs that I would class as flawless, ones that I could listen over and over again. The kind you get a chill and an instant state change just by listening to, the kind of songs you crave.

The problem is even if you have a flawless song, it gets old after a while, the novelty simply wares off. Music is tricky, what one person find amazing is just drawl to another so you can’t always take suggestions of what to listen to, you need to discover for yourself.

The most amazing songs I know, I’ve not been dumbfounded to on the first listen and I maybe hear it and think it’s alright and save it to a playlist for later. It’s only when listening again, when taking the time just to enjoy that one song does it comes alive. The more you listen the more you hear the complexity and rhythms you missed first off. Only when you’re open to where the song can take you do you really appreciate the music.

There is no one way to like a song. You love it in your own way. You don’t love it to impress anyone else, when you really dance it doesn’t matter if you do it in the right way, you just dance. That’s the great thing about music, while there is mainstream music there is no music you have to like. You can love whatever you want. I personally love post rock. I get a bit fed up having to describe it when anyone asks, but I would never think of trying to listen to anything else just to fit in.

You can’t try to enjoy music, you just do. You can’t force yourself to love something it happens all by itself.

My point is we’re always looking for those amazing songs. Because of that we go to the songs we know are great. I guarantee there are songs you love now because there was one time you were willing to listen to a lot of crap and there was something that stood out and from there you discovered something you didn’t think was possible. I still think a hundred bad songs listened to makes up for 1 song you think is great.

That’s how we should see life and people. We always want the great so we keep going back to the people we know we’ve had a great time in the past even if we’ve done it so many times we’ve run it into the ground. Like any playlist, after listening to shit after shit you just want something to enjoy...
But if you aren’t willing to accept the shit you’ll never discover the amazing in what seems ordinary.

So stop going back over old relationships and go out and run through the shit humanity has to offer till you meet someone you vibe with in a way you didn’t think was possible.

Past discomfort lies bliss.