Creating a complex
 

When a girl tells me one of her ex fuck people was a bodybuilder..

And I am just pretty average looking, quite muscular but not huge and trying to strip some belly fat..

I can feel it giving me a complex. I feel, somewhat inferior, not as good, resentful..

Usually I can shrug off exs n shit.. but this.. :/

really youve got to learn to just not give a shit
there are loooooaaaadddds of girlies out there

if you are with some girl who you are not interested in having as your wife then why would you care if her ex had a black 12 inch mamber, 20 inch guns, a range rover etc
you are fucking her and she is a temp
stop worrying

last girl i was shagging
she kept going on about me having a monster dick etc
so i asked her is that the biggest youve had etc
and shes like 'this conversation can only end in a bad way'
i was angered - i couldnt give a shit wether mine was the smallest she had it doesnt phase me


i think girls just generally talk shit and lie

chinese bird i was fucking - saying i was a god in bed and that she came then when we split up she tells me she never came once
so im thinking she said it in spite-- but we got back together afterwards and she admitted she cant even make herself cum most of the time

so this has got me running this theory now when i am dating girls to see what bullshit i am being fed-- i dont mean in a paranoid way, its just a bit of social experimentation in the background

But what if she is LTR material, and everythings going well, and then she comes out with that.. not in a way to "get at me", but it just entered conversation like it does..

You're right, I do need to not give a shit..

Usually I can shrug it off.. i duno why this phases me

It phases you because you think girls like big muscles, it's not always the case.
Depends on how the conversation went...

The problem is you don't want a LTR to have had anyone better than you. If she was just a FB, then you don't care.
You have to ask yourself a few questions to think logically about the situation, it's not easy.

I guess I have to ask myself, if I was a bodybuilder, I'd just find something else to complex about and feel inferior, like brains, or bedroom skills, or something.

I need to man the fuck up and think the past is the past and currently I'm the one giving her screaming orgasms

you cant get a complex unless you give a shit

you need to flip it round.
If you shagged a girl that had bigger boobs or a finer ass in the past, would you care if the new girl wasn't quite as good but still fit?

What are the advantages of thinking about whether he was better built?
What are the disadvantages of thinking about whether he was better built?

What Genepoole said!

I've shagged strippers, models, unemployed, drs, etc however if I'm having a relationship with somebody it's because I want them. Same for the girl. Worrying about the past isn't going to change it