True man, I've learnt a lot from this mess up! Cheers for the help and advice I will definitely bare this in mind next time an hb says to me she has a boyfriend!
I've spoken to "Megan" today and she still wants to be friends as we got on so well......Is this still possible?

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Anything is possible But do you want to be her friend, or do you want to fuck her, or both?

I would like to still be friends with her, and yeh I do want to fuck her, but I'm not going to. I think it would be wrong to lead her along like that.
Hoefully we can still get along just like before all the drama kicked off I just wasn't sure if I was naive by thinking that we could still be friends like that.

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you have a good point and I would struggle not to beat the living daylights out of someone for engaging in paedophilia.

I definitely think it's not fair to cheat on someone if you're in a relationship that's why peeps have fuck buddy's.

This is just rationalisation of cognitive dissonance. You know you did something wrong but rather than accept how wrong it truly is you would rather play it down and or rationalise it as something ok.

Be a man and accept your wrong, learn from it, and don't do it again. Rationalising by saying "It would have been someone else anyway" doesn't make what you've done any less immoral in respect to the poor bloke that you've caused emotional hurt to as a direct result of your actions. Saying that he would have had that trauma from someone else anyway doesn't make it ok.

There are better examples but I'm drawing a blank right now. Imagine that you just saw someone's car keys left in the door of their car in a bad neighbourhood. Does stealing that car on the premise of "someone else would have stolen it anyway" make it any less of an immoral act?

Or running over someone in your car because they were in the road, someone else would have done it anyways

Ha ha like the last example!

And yeh I do accept the fact I made a big mistake, and I feel awful for it!
I have a date with "Jess" tomorrow and "Megan" has agreed to keep a friendship between us. I have told her not to wait for me as I dont want to drag her along, but she has insisted on waiting until thursday to hear how wednesday goes and my final decision.

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Indeed, addition of "but..." doesn't change the first part. It's still the same thing. The only difference being the final one in which you didn't actually shoot someone, the intent however was still there and therefore it still remains the same.

I guess the message is that you still took the shot. Therefore you still had the intention (mens rea(If anyone studied law)).

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Hahaha - when I was at law school it was shooting at one person out of a window and hitting someone else by mistake. That person then turns out to be (i) commiting suicide at the time or (ii) planning a mass murder etc. etc.