Midas I think Phil's using your computer.

PS

"Its not you I don't trust, its everyone else"

Translation

"I'm very insecure and don't think am good enough for you"

classic womanease lol

And how do you fix this, without binning her off for someone who is secure?

A woman with an issue such as low self-esteem has to be willing to change on a DEEP LEVEL, a guy can not change a women unless she is willing to change herself.

From my experience in order for a woman with low self-esteem to want to change her thought pattern something profound has to happen almost like a revelation in her own mind that her current self talk is in fact harming her and not benefiting her.

She would have to make a concious effort to change her thought patterns and behaviours, very similar to us on this forum we have consciously decided that are currant thought pattern and behaviours are not benefiting us the way we would like them to, so we consciously decided to try and change them (this thinking has made us more inclined to accept help).

It would of taken alot for us a long time & alot of hurt (emotionality) to come to that conclusion "we had a revelation".

Now imagine what a women with low self-esteem would have to go through for her to reach a smiler conclusion.

Low self esteem does not automatically mean a fear of losing their partner. It is present in many cases but is not in all, therefore it can't be held as the reason for it. My girlfriend can be incredibly insecure at times, however she has absolutely no fear of losing me or that I could disappear into the arms of someone else after a single night though.

Correlation does not equal causation.

You got any Stats for that Jay?

xkcd: Correlation