Selfishness
 

Is it okay to be selfish? To what extent?

Been reading the "Thinking rampage" thread an a common theme seems to be about women getting emotional (intentionally or unintentionally).

Is it okay to fuck girls even if they will get hurt in the end?

Whats your thoughts

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its NOT the common theme that its ok to hurt peoples feelings!
Im saying it happens wether we like it or not.

I personally go out of my way not to hurt peoples feelings-- often even if it means i come out of the interaction worse off.

Heck i had chance to take a girls Virginity and denied her because she was really keen on me and i wasnt that bothered about her.
I bet only about 10% of the male population would ahve done the same

Sorry man, didnt mean to word it like that.

I wasnt taking a stab at you either :) Just wondered what people think about pickin up women that get emotional about you.. I will edit my original post abit

It really depends on what you're doing it for. The vast majority in the community are in fact just interested in meeting others having a good time and hopefully meeting the girl that makes their heart do backflips. Others however are just looking for sex and are completely uninterested in finding a relationship.

If you're just looking for sex then you really need to be open and honest about that before the deed. This generally doesn't hurt your chances of getting with people, it just means they know not to get too emotionally involved. Girls like to have fun too! They just need to know beforehand that they shouldn't be letting themselves get attached to this guy that's not looking for anything more.

Of course it is. You're just f*cking. If you are promising them relationships and have not intention of delivering on the other hand, just to get laid, that is selfish and not ok.

I think it's very possible to be selfish and still considerate. As RLAJay has said just be honest up front.

The way we are all brought up is to be polite so even if you are just doing it for your jollies then just be straight up with her before hand, there's no need to be a dick and at least make her a cup of tea when you're done!

When something is "off" and I'm not sure what to do, I ask myself: am I being the man, or the boy? Something about that question centres me and I know how to handle a given moral quandary from there, in any area of life.

PS