Unusual response.
 

Some years ago, I was in a pub/bar with a small dancefloor, one or two people were dancing. I saw a young lady sitting with two guys to her left, and two to her right. They were sitting behind a table with their drinks, none of them were talking, and the young lady looked bored. I walked up to the guys, guessed who the leader was (right or wrong - don't know). I asked him if he minded if I danced with the lady. He looked shocked and did not know what to say, but mumbled something along the lines of OK. I held my hand out to the lady, she took it and I led her to the dancefloor. Did a few salsa twirls etc. Then the guys got up and started to walk out of the bar. She obviously had to leave with them for some reason. But here is the part, before she left, she threw her arms around me, squeezed me really tight and kissed me on the cheek-neck area in a really meaningful way. Then left with the guys. That was a few years ago. I was then 50, my guess is that she was about 23. Much too young for me of course, but it was only a dance.

Now on Friday, I was invited to a friend's birthday party, he was 50. A young lady was looking very bored and sitting a few chairs away from me. I felt sorry for her, stood up, held my hand out and asked her to dance, with a more-or-less, come here and dance with me attitude. She took my hand and I walked her out to the dance floor, she started to take the lead while walking out, I let her, but as soon as we started dancing, I twirled her around a few times and did some elementary dance moves with her. She stopped and said something in my ear, I did not understand her because of the noise, but she then went to dance with her friends. I went back to my chair and started talking to the other guests and generally enjoyed the rest of the evening. I had to leave early due to working the following day, so I approached my birthday friend, thanked him for the invitation and told him I had to leave. The young lady I had been dancing with heard this, ran up to me, threw her arms around me and saying "you are not going are you?" She could not stop hugging me, I gave her a little hug back after her saying something to me really nice, but I can't remember what it was. My friend was shocked and said "you are not together are you?" She then disengaged and took a couple of steps back as she came to realise how she had behaved. I left, and its the last I have seen of her. She was about 28 to 31 and I am now 57, and old man with white hair and a white moustache. I have been told that I look a bit like Santa Clause.

I am not interested in picking up women now at my age, anyway I have a nice girlfriend ten years younger than me and a beautiful Turkish girl of 36 that wants to come and see me again.

However, this phenomenon has really confused me. Can someone please explain to me what is the psychology that makes young women act in this way over just a couple of salsa moves? I have asked my Turkish woman and she says that I will never understand because I am a man and women are emotional. I am so confused, can someone please explain the psychology - as it has happened twice and I am far from attractive. I wish I had known this when I was 27 and not 57 LOL!

tldr


Peace,

kowalski

Dear Welshman

As I am really into psychology I can tell you that you are very good to make girls feel comfortable around you. You also give them the feeling of protection when they are around you. That's very important for every woman. Also, age in men doesn't have to do anything with attractiveness. You might be 50+, but to women you look as a mature man with a lot of experience. There are other things that trigger women's feelings, as positive energy, smile, etc.

Thank you

The Professor

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Yes, that is a good way to get a flat response. Better yet would be to use a digital front end like a computer and do the EQing in digital.
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