Overcoming Fear
 

If this kid can overcome his stammer then anyone on here can overcome whatever is holding them back from achieving greatness.

Watch A Teenager Bring His Class To Tears Just By Saying A Few Words

Can we use this as inspiration for overcoming your fear of approaching a girl in the day maybe...

We should. Public speaking, even if they have no speech impediments, is something most people will avoid like the plague.

In primary school the teacher asked me to read a passage from a book to the class. Other people had already managed it. I was so overcome with self-consciousness I couldn't do it. I think from that point I went into my shell, not to emerge a for a long, long time.

In contrast, yesterday at work I had to walk into a room full of people I hadn't met before and give them a talk. I spoke confidently for 70 minutes including Q&A (no notes, no slides) and got a round of applause at the end.

This year I also managed to do a few direct approaches in the day time; something I never imagined I would ever do. In the Blueprint, Tyler talks about facing reality head on as the best way to melt away all the shit you've accumulated in your brain over the years about who you are and what you're capable of. Taking right action works. Regardless of outcomes, it will help your inner game and you'll notice the effect it has on your night game. One helps the other.

Its not a fear lol.

What is it then?

No reference experiences. Im not used to doing it. Like in the gym, with a partner you can push each other, by yourself its always harder.

its a fear and you have a fear of admittting it. if it wasnt a fear you would do it.

Fucksake here we go. Its not a fear in the typical "Oh Im too scared to approach girls", its more like I always rationalise it out.

Its a cliche to quote The Blueprint but I will. In it he says "You can be sitting with your buddies nice and chill then you see a girl but your chill, relaxed, all that effort of going over there and speaking etc is a lot". I think he calls it inertia.

That's me, Im always going about my day and used to the habit/routine of doing that without approaching. Its a tough habit to break. Sure I have 'fear' but I also had/have AA when in the club yet I get over it every single night. Whether Im drunk or not.

Admitting this a good start, and pretty much all I or Jynxy is suggesting. Like the club, you can get over your apprehension of approaching in the day, but it is you who needs to take action.

The rest is just excuses.

Phil Is Making A Cup Of Tea.