Awesome article i read on cracked today, thought it was worth sharing
5 mental tricks getting over yourself
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Self-absorption, or solipsism, is defined roughly as "wanting to believe that you are the center of the universe" (you'd have to want to believe it), and it's undeniably a Huge Thing in the present culture, because let's just admit it -- you either are or are never more than 10 feet from someone with the ego to secretly suspect that society is literally an elaborate Truman Show-style situation with themselves at the center (I'll go first and put my own hand up, although I have long stopped looking for the hidden camera in my bathroom mirror). But as comforting as it is to think that you're more real than everyone else, you're ironically screwing yourself over by believing you're the anointed protagonist of life's movie. A lot of us need to get over ourselves, in other words, and I'm sure you've noticed. I've mentioned before the romantic consequences (or lack thereof) of thinking that you're The One True Human, but here's a bunch of other self-sabotage that occurs when you're Truman.
#5. You Take Everything Personally
When you're the protagonist, everyone is talking to you. The pitfalls are many, from assuming a passerby on a headset phone is saying hello to you to being embittered for days when insulted online, because as the protagonist, everyone in the world knows everything about you and their insults must be taken directly to heart (plus you're all too ready to insult others, as other people's feelings aren't as real as yours, and thus a vicious cycle is born). That's the problem with thinking you're the Truman part of The Truman Show -- you drastically overestimate how much others are focused on you in daily life, and always to your detriment.
"I can't wear this shirt to the party, WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?!" Well, they'll probably think "Hey, look at that shirt, it's- OH GOD THERE'S SUSAN WHY CAN'T I BUILD THE COURAGE TO MAKE A MOVE? WHY CAN'T I MEANINGFULLY EVOLVE BEYOND WHO I WAS AT AGE 15?!" because other people are unsurprisingly focused on their own concerns. Like you are. And thus your own extreme self-focus makes you worry when you don't have to, and you deny yourself the borderline superpower of being able to wear almost anything -- a power that's granted by knowing that you're just a blip on other people's mental radar and effectively invisible to the vicious judgment that they reserve mostly for themselves. Like you do.
Read more: 5 Mental Tricks for Getting Over Yourself | Cracked.com
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also if you liked it, then check this one out, from a few months back
6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person
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5 mental tricks getting over yourself, from cracked.com -
28-08-2013, 03:27 PM
