My lover hurt me in bed

[David.s]

I have been married for 20 years to a man 15 years older than me. We have two children and a lovely home.
However, 11 years ago I met a married work colleague. As soon as he walked in the room 'sparks flew'. Up until that point, I had never looked at another man, let alone thought about adultery. Needless to say, we slept together.
I had just been made redundant, but over the years we kept in touch, but did not actually meet. Then, last year, we agreed to meet for a drink. Eight years had passed, but the chemistry was still there, if not stronger. We ended up sleeping together again.
We see each other perhaps four times a year, and we speak on the phone every couple of weeks or so. This suits us both because it can't interfere with our home lives.
I saw him a couple of days ago. Since I last saw him, I have lost a couple of stone, changed my hair colour and wore a diamond ring from my husband on my wedding finger.
Within 10 minutes we were making love and it was beautiful. We went downstairs for a drink and he spotted my ring. He commented that it must have cost a lot of money.
I was a little surprised because he plays his cards close to his chest. He's never commented on my jewellery before.
We went back to the room and made love again, but this time it was quite aggressive. He asked permission to insert something inside me, and I said yes.
Everything was fine and then he started to hurt me. I opened my eyes and he seemed to have a 'red mist' all around him. He was so intent on what he was doing to me, I don't think he heard me cry out in pain.
I put my hand down and gripped his arm, and he stopped. He then tenderly made love to me. I have always felt safe with him, but for a brief moment I was frightened.
Since then, I have had some internal bleeding, and this worries me, but I can't understand why he should turn into a Jekyll and Hyde character.
Was he 'marking his territory'? Was he jealous because my husband had bought me a new diamond ring?
We both have to accept the fact that we make love to our spouses. This has totally thrown me and I don't know what to think.
I don't know how to broach the subject without making him feel really bad. I have lost a little trust in him, but I don't want to not see him again. Am I my own worst enemy?

[Framejacker]

Originally Posted by David.s

I have been married for 20 years to a man 15 years older than me. We have two children and a lovely home.
However, 11 years ago I met a married work colleague. As soon as he walked in the room 'sparks flew'. Up until that point, I had never looked at another man, let alone thought about adultery. Needless to say, we slept together.
I had just been made redundant, but over the years we kept in touch, but did not actually meet. Then, last year, we agreed to meet for a drink. Eight years had passed, but the chemistry was still there, if not stronger. We ended up sleeping together again.
We see each other perhaps four times a year, and we speak on the phone every couple of weeks or so. This suits us both because it can't interfere with our home lives.
I saw him a couple of days ago. Since I last saw him, I have lost a couple of stone, changed my hair colour and wore a diamond ring from my husband on my wedding finger.
Within 10 minutes we were making love and it was beautiful. We went downstairs for a drink and he spotted my ring. He commented that it must have cost a lot of money.
I was a little surprised because he plays his cards close to his chest. He's never commented on my jewellery before.
We went back to the room and made love again, but this time it was quite aggressive. He asked permission to insert something inside me, and I said yes.
Everything was fine and then he started to hurt me. I opened my eyes and he seemed to have a 'red mist' all around him. He was so intent on what he was doing to me, I don't think he heard me cry out in pain.
I put my hand down and gripped his arm, and he stopped. He then tenderly made love to me. I have always felt safe with him, but for a brief moment I was frightened.
Since then, I have had some internal bleeding, and this worries me, but I can't understand why he should turn into a Jekyll and Hyde character.
Was he 'marking his territory'? Was he jealous because my husband had bought me a new diamond ring?
We both have to accept the fact that we make love to our spouses. This has totally thrown me and I don't know what to think.
I don't know how to broach the subject without making him feel really bad. I have lost a little trust in him, but I don't want to not see him again. Am I my own worst enemy?

Next time he asks to insert something in you, say no.

[Hustler25]

Errr...David, is this this for real?

[db x]

Reading this made me feel sick.

Surprised how developed my morals are becoming.

Really hope this is fake I hate the thought of on going cheating when kids and long term marriage is involved.

[Hustler25]

The OP's name is David so I can only assume this is a homosexual affair. Gay men are mad randy and promiscuous. Never marry a gay man!

[Darood]

Really David a diamond ring? Ghey.

[face]

Originally Posted by kowalski

This is weird.

What are they selling?


Peace,

kowalski

fisting toys from the sounds of things

[sapmi]

wasn't expecting to see Dolphin back on the forum

[dan300]

I think he got the wrong place. He is looking for Dear Deirdre.

[sapmi]

Originally Posted by Hustler25

Gay men are mad randy and promiscuous. Never marry a gay man!

Gonna be using this in my signature