New Guy

[crisp]

Hi guys,
I'm an 18 year old student living in Essex, studying in Kent. My experience consists of using a few lines and techniques from 'The Game' to close my ex girlfriend. I'm just looking for some material to try out and use to develop some game, my main concerns being:
1. I'm not (yet) confident socially
2. I've never made an approach and have never dealt with rejection from girls, and still fear it
3. I'm a young looking 18 so in clubs I'm competing against 23yr old alpha's that make me look a bit of a kid (have experimented with slightly 'scruffy' stubble, good or bad idea?)

Thanks in advance to the forum, and I hope to contribute at some point by recording some of my experiences in a university environment

Also I'd enjoy any opportunity to see a PUA in action
Thanks Guys

[Barney Stinson]

Welcome dude.

I too look younger than I actually am. People think I'm about 18 but I'm really 21.

Confidence will come with experience. "do the thing you're scared shitless of, the confidence comes after".

You only fear it because you've thought about it and all the possible routes the situation could end on that would give you pain (by pain I mean rejection). Thing is, whilst in the situation, before you start thinking negatively, have you ever considered that it could end positively? I bet your answer is 'no', for the simple reason that negative thoughts, emotions etc.. can only feed off negative; fueling the negativity and producing stuff like 'she would not be interested'. The positive thought is over-looked. Its only after the situation has passed that you start to kick yourself and think positivly about what could have been. Then the beating yourself up and kicking yourself turns negative so the cycle starts again; negative feeding off negative.
Only way to make advances is to break the cycle, even though you will think the opposite; 1 of the roles of a wingman is to put you straight if that situation arises.

Get some field reports up dude. Doesn't matter if you don't think the interaction ended well, its experience and there's always positives. It will take time, there's no magic pill just a lot of hard work and dedication.

You've started young, the others your age who haven't started really are the suckers.

[EssexKing90]

Hey I'm colchester based. Pm me your number and let's get out there.