Dilemma
 

First of all I would like to say hello to everyone. I discovered the Game about two years ago and been adopting bits and pieces every since. More recently I've discovered RSD's Blueprint which I thought was excellent and has been a very positive influence on me.

Anyway, I'm 30 and have recently come out of a 12 month relationship. I've been seeing a few girls in the last month or so since being single; some I've met online and others when out on the town. It's all been good.

Obviously I've been seeing a few women at anyone time, and a few weeks ago arranged to meet a cute 18 year old who lives 300 odd miles away who I've been chatting to on the webcam for a couple of weeks now. She's very attractive easy to talk to and mature for her age. At the time there was no one else I was serious about so we decided to book hotel, trains etc. for a fun weekend the weekend after next. So far as good.

Well since then, I've been seeing a lot of a 28 year old who lives nearby. I think she's great and ticks lots of boxes for me. We've just started seeing each other regularly and sleeping together. She has an awful lot of potential and wouldn't surprise me if the relationship has legs, at least for the next few months before I have to move from the area. After that who knows.

The problem I'm having is my conscience is starting to twitch and I'm wondering whether I've crossed a line in my relationship with the 28 year old, which means going ahead with my weekend away is morally dubious!

I realise I'm the only person who can judge what I should or should not do, but would welcome any comments any of you may have. On the one hand I think you only live once, fill your boots and commit emotionally if that's what I decide to do further down the line. On the other, am I starting off on the bad foot with the 28 year old. I'll need to carefully choose my words when reporting on my weekend away!

Thanks guys.

Welcome Mr Fender,

Ah the dilemma of too many women!

I imagine that things with the 18 yo won't turn into anything serious because of the distances involved, right?
Also the 28 yo is no means guaranteed to end in a serious relationship because you are going away, correct?
Have you told any of them that this is going to end up in a serious relationship?
If you haven't told them or hinted at it and they know that you'll be either a long distance or moving then they probably don't expect anything serious.
Be honest with them both so if you do decide to go and see the 18 and 28 asks something about whether you have seen anyone while you've been seeing each other tell her don't lie.
I have a girlfriend now but at the start I really wasn't sure because I was out every weekend pulling girls. I went and slept with someone else and I felt guilty even though we weren't in a relationship we kept seeing each other and I decided to be with just her. She asked me if i'd seen anyone else and I told her and she's fine with it. The old me wouldn't have.

The best thing is to be honest but not knowing the situation entirely I can't say what you should do for sure.

What Tom said. Also if you think they are unsure about what you want then make it clear you 'just want some fun'. This is the mindset I try to take regardless. If things progress then great, there's no need to make commited decissions so early though, especially if you are unsure.