Once you have it...you dont want it

[ninjaelephant]

This is really doing my head in.

Im currently seeing a girl who lost her virginity to me. She has just turned 18 and looks wise ticks all my boxes. She wants to see me all the time which is okay for now....



Problem is because I know I can see the 18yr when ever I want or ruin her anytime I want......I dont feel the need too...

An Example: She was lying on my bed just in her knickers playing on my xbox while I pottered about in the house...I was thinking " I wish she would fuck off so i can have a wank"

What the hell am I thinking??

Im actually more excited about banging some milf who isnt nearly as fit or having a wank alone then putting effort into sleeping with this fit 18yr

[nova]

Originally Posted by ninjaelephant

Im actually more excited about banging some milf who isnt nearly as fit or having a wank alone then putting effort into sleeping with this fit 18yr

I am currently going through a similar mindset, which is now forcing me to ask serious questions of my relationship with my girlfriend. I too am getting more excited about wanking, and also the thought of dipping my toe into the waters of milfs.

After watching the Peaceful Warrior last night, the idea/fact that it is the journey itself that is the most exciting was reaffirmed to me. The challenges are what drives us, not meeting an outcome.

[ninjaelephant]

Originally Posted by nova

I am currently going through a similar mindset, which is now forcing me to ask serious questions of my relationship with my girlfriend. I too am getting more excited about wanking, and also the thought of dipping my toe into the waters of milfs.

After watching the Peaceful Warrior last night, the idea/fact that it is the journey itself that is the most exciting was reaffirmed to me. The challenges are what drives us, not meeting an outcome.

Its mental!


The thing is..I know that if I sar her in a bar..or she was unavailable i would want her...But because I have her I dont... I dont like this mindset

Ive even gone back on pof which I said to my slef I wouldnt...

[HammerTime]

Originally Posted by nova

...challenges are what drives us, not meeting an outcome.

My life story, I get bored of the outcome once achieved. I got like this with my last GF - I thought I was mental. When the wanking becomes better than the sex, you need to change how you have it or who you have it with.

[nova]

Originally Posted by HammerTime

My life story, I get bored of the outcome once achieved. I got like this with my last GF - I thought I was mental. When the wanking becomes better than the sex, you need to change how you have it or who you have it with.

So then is it a matter of 'making it work', like the relationship gurus would suggest, and somehow 'spice up' things in bed to freshen things up, or is it time to throw down new challenges. I am excited by the thought of new challenges and am certainly not scarred of being single. But then I wonder, am I being greedy?

[lucidfer]

Why do you think people cheat, get bored, break up without serious issues, etc.? It's the same for really hot girls, especially when they know they can just have any guy they want or keep them around.

My guess: Don't see anyone seriously (but see people) until you find someone you think is worth trying to have a relationship with. Then call off all the others and switch to just the one gal.

[Joker]

Show me any hot girl and I'll show you some bloke that's bored of nailing her. Human nature.

[HammerTime]

So basically any sort of long term monogamous marriage/partnership is out of the question. We're all going to die alone haha.

I broke up with a girl because she did my head in and the sex was dead towards the end. But the post-relationship causal sex to follow was the best fucking sex we'd ever had, consistently.

It was clear I became tired of her, but certainly not her body.

[nova]

As long as it's not just an incurable trait of human nature.

[Phil]

the issue here is not getting what you want, its that you exhaust it. If you get a girl u like, u dont have to spend every hour with her, ur mates are there for that.