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Not fully understood you here mate, is she your ex?
Either way, for me personally, I would say if she is just being off it's not really worth your effort, there are plenty more fish... etc.
However, if what you hear through the grapevine is true about a bad previous relationship and self esteem issues, then maybe you could both benefit from you just being straight with her, and telling her what you really think of her. You think she is a nice person, etc, tell her so. Reassure her your not just about the physical etc (unless you are!).

Be careful though, this sounds a lot like oneitis (obsession with 1 woman, putting her on an impossibly high pedstal) to me!

I got 99 problems but a bitch aint 1

Ritz

I agree with Ritz. It sounds like this girl is messing you about to be honest. You've done right by making it seem like you're not bothered either way, but the key is to actually be not bothered about her. I think the only way it's going to happen with her is if she actually does have self esteem issues etc, in which case ending up with her then is going to end up in a proper relationship.

My advice is to drop it. I know it's a bit harsh, but the sooner you forget about her and concentrate on girls that are worth your time and effort, the better in my opinion. I had pretty much the exact same situation last year through uni (my AFC days). I forced myself to get over her, then stumbled across the Game and this group of disreputable characters on here :p, and lo and behold, it worked. My advice is to do the same.

Fox, I'm with Blanca 100% I think you should move on. I went through a similar scenario with an ex whilst at uni, every now and then she'd come back to me despite her seeing other guys. I was ridiculously AFC back then so I'd always take her back, it took me a while to realise she was just after something from me or quite simply after attention.

The thing to do is cut communication with her, don't text her, call her or arrange to see her etc. If she calls or texts you then fine, be polite and civil with her but don't put all your time and energy into this one girl. I know its a cliche (and I hate the term) but 'There's plenty more fish in the sea', the point is to have a mentality that women are abundant, once you have this locked down its a real blessing.

No longer do I pine for one particular girl or suffer from oneitis. I used to suffer from crippling oneitis, once you realise that women are everywhere and you are worthy of them then you will soon forget this one girl.

'Shes off to uni end of next and worst thing that could happen is I could end up being just her mate.'

How is that the worst thing that can happen??...if anything I think thats the best thing that could happen out of this.

Let her go, and let yourself go from her. It maybe difficult for the first few weeks but soon enough you'll feel free and rejuvinated. Go out have interactions with and meet at least 10 new women and then ask yourself 'Was that girl really all that after all??'.....my guess is the current feelings and perceptions you have of this girl will change.

All the best.