Help need tp redeem myself
 

Ok here is the story...

I have been chatting to this girl for a few weeks now she works in a local shop she's really cute and we get on really well, I decided I wanted to get her out for a coffee. So during a chat I tried to find out when she was free and ask her out for a drink, instead I fumbled it, confused her and she was like well you can just talk to me in here... So I left without a date or a telephone number, I then stumbled across her profile on a social networking website and I sent her a message asking if she fancied grabbing a coffee (totally against anything I was planning on doing), she hasn't replied to this. But I want to keep pursuing her and i' really not sure of the way forward now. Any suggestions?

Jonny

I agree with Jaz but it may not be too late. You made her an offer to let her have some of your valuable time and she let you down so show her you have better stuff to do, make it seem like no big deal and like you couldnt care less(next time you see her explain how you had a great time on the day you were meant to have met). Even if she does reply just be like really sorry, I am going out with my mates or whatever and say maybe we can do something another time. She shown you disinterest and you gotta do the same.

Cheers Flake, I'll give it a whirl.. I'm new to all of this so hopefully get past this one itis soon!!!

Well she's friends with someone I know and she popped up on their page.. I was so pissed that I sent her a message but I just fucked up my first ever attempt to get a date since being single.. I think maybe I'll just remain cool and calm as if nothing has happened then try again at a later date? Or should I just move on?

Cheers guys I must sound like a total looser lol

Noone is a loser....! This is a total cliche but we all make mistakes, as long as we learn from that mistakes, then we are victorious...! No more negative talks buddy, move on - onwards and upwards. Take the excellent advice from this site. Dont dwell on this woman.

Im supposed to go on a day1 with a girl this coming saturday...she just texted me this morning saying she bumped into her ex-bf and wanted to give it a go again altho he was a wanker. And would feel bad going out with me whilst seeing him again. And in the end she said take care of yourself. I never replied. And deleted her from my contact list. I dont want to waste my precious time with someone who rather put a wanker first than me. Should I have done it differently, I dont know. But hey I feel good to not response and remove her.

Much Success.

Cheers Legend

Don't worry bout what you did and regret it or anything... It's just who we learn man!
Just don't focus all your attention on one woman.... Your time is more valuable than that. There are plenty more women in the world for you. Just realise what you did wrong and try and correct it next time.


Ritz

Cheers Ritz, basically I just babbled a load of shite at her confused her and ran away then resorted to messaging her on facebook! Argh stupid man, twas all going so well.

Ice

I agree with the guys partially, but I think you should pursue it further for 2 reasons, the first is any practice speaking to a girl is good( you have nothing to lose) and second because even if you fuck it up so bad there's no chance of it working at least you can easily move on

OK I'll take heed and report back!!!