They don't know what they want
 

I totally agree that girls don't know what they want. They always say they want a nice kind loving bloke who does everything for them, blah blah blah. But they never end up with this type of guy right???

I used to think I knew exactly what I wanted.....A really attractive woman who obeys my commands and cooks, cleans blah blah blah.

But I too am like a woman in the sense I don't really know what I want either, until now...... I realise now I like challenge, woman who challenge my authority and intelligence. I don't want YES woman who cower down to me, I want the ones who say "excuse me you bastard but, blah blah blah".

Now I understand exactly why when I say to woman “I don’t want sex with you”, I end up having sex with them.


AJay

I always think I want a girlfriend, but I haven't met a girl in god knows how long I would want to fill that role. Every bird I've been involved with in the last year or so I fancy, connect with and had fun with on some level. I wouldn't pull someone who doesn't tick all these boxes nowadays, but still no long term potential. Don't really know what I'm looking for - possibly looking for something that doesn't exist. Regardless stiill enjoy whirlwind romances.

Girls are exactly the same as men! I don't buy into a weaker sex, less intelligence, more sly, less funny stuff. If anything the only difference that girls have is a maternal instinct which kicks in to all girls whether they admit it! I have known hard nosed bitches, lesbians, athletes , doctors, etc. and they all get the broody bug at some point. Whereas men have the urge to spread their seed to continue their genetic legacy.

They don't know what they want just like men
They enjoy sex as much as men
They lie just like men
and they are also as socially conditioned as men.

I think getting into pickup shatters the illusion that, as Joker pointed out, as a "chode" you negotiate regular access to one girl for company, sex and whatever then try and keep her. PU opens your eyes because you talk to so many girls that deep down they are all more similar than you think. They all have variations of the same insecurities, hair, tits and fun pocket

I think one of the benefits though is because you see so much of the same, date-in-date-out, when finally 1 does jump out at you, it means something so much more than the dates and lays that you've had plus you have the social awareness and dexterity to do something about it.

Apparently if you haven’t had a longish term relationship by the time you reach 25 years old, then you never will... and you are destined to grow old alone (or with a lot of flings) :( anyone here over 25 and had a longish term relationship after 25 but never before???? I’d like this theory to be proven wrong but haven’t found anyone who has yet!! It’s something to do with phycology where your emotion are not built able to withstand a relationship as you don’t know how to bond with someone that greatly.

AJay

You will fall in love with the girl who reminds you of yourself, so it’s like looking in the mirror (not literally of course). I found this out quite recently, it’s well freaky. And I really love myself so it’s inevitable that I would love someone who is like myself: D

i hear that we are supposedly more susceptible to falling in love with a woman who is similar to our mother! Creepy I know but if you can be bothered to look it up its all been tested by physiologists and shit!


And the woman who i have loved in my life, come to think about it have many similarities as my mother!!!!!!!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh fucking hell shoot me now!


AJay

This seems true to some extent! Girls I connect with best have similar traits to my mum (not similar age though!!) Shudder!!

My first and only long term bird was from 15 to 18. She was gorgeous and amazing! For years I used to compare other girls to this and I think resulted in no long term for SE. I have now got to the stage where I fear I am in your over 25 club sort of. Being single is my reality now! As I said before don't even know what I want for long term! At least I've fucked a lot of birds but lonliness may be in the future : ( (I'm 28 btw)

Wrong. That's the guy they marry. Until they find that, they end up with a load of short relationships with a guy they think is good but isn't.
Women need to feel protected/safe, that can happen with loving blokes too just as long as they carry themselves well in life.

Yeh me!!
Longest relationship i ever had was almost 8months up until 3 years ago!!
26!! when i started a 3year relationship.
So its kinda put that theory to shit BUT i got to be honest i always seem to be looking for an ltr and as soon as im in one i always want to eject asap.Its a constant battle between the 2 mindsets!!
Yep have to agree with the mother traits tho ie my mothers tiny i LOVE tiny women!!

I'm no psychologist.. but I think the mother traits thing has been blown out of proportion, and probably correlates to the amount of affection you got as a child from both parents.

Think the term, daddys girl... who had a shitty father, needs looking after (in the ass)