Getting over a girl/obsession
 

Okay, I probably already know the answer to this or atleast a few answers but I really need a good talk/advice from you guys.

I started talking to this girl online and a bit IRL... shes hot cool doesn't drink much, calming and showed a lot of directness with me in being into me... she never mentioned she had a bf until i became friends with her friend and now boom.

Shes still pretty much on it in terms of flirting and shes manufactured a secret date. The difference here is I just can't take it. The "I love you's" on fb and changing her last name to his etc. is just fucking with my mind so much on a girl I really shouldn't be interested in.

i just need advice/pep talks please to get myself out of this rut because I'm getting massive 'oneitis' over something which is so meaningless.

all her friends are telling me shes on it and really just wants me to show i'm not a player and meet her up a few times but I know im playing with fire and I'm already feeling hurt like a stupid fucking pussy... need to get my head out of this bullshit.

is it just me or are women deluded beyond measure. she is meeting u behind her fellas back, yet your the one who has to prove YOUR no a player!!!

is this how they justify their shit.

why is she tellin her fella she loves him on facebook while she is up to this shit

BAD NEWS!!!! delete her & fuck her off... u will feel better if she chases u

Simple reasoning behind this, we all want what we can’t have or what is hard to obtain, that’s what we do in pickup right?? We make ourselves seem incredibly valuable, which of course we are!
Your emotions are playing with you right now as you feel as though she is less obtainable! And you feel like you have less power! You need to flip the script now. I'm sure you already know how to do this! And I’m also sure you already knew everything I’ve written in this message. But hey we don't think straight when emotions are getting the better of us.


AJay

spot on guys.. seriously some shits been a mindfuck. she'll say how she wants to marry me, elope, have kids and shit then post on her bfs wall shit about growing old together.


edit: her friends were aware of the situation. she phoned one of them and spoke about me for 4 hours... anyway, one of them as put her on blast on FB which has made her change her name to her bfs last name and all this crazy bullshit to prove her commitment. mind fuck... yet she still thinks we're on this date.

spin the whole situation on her. Take her out and tell her you have a girlfriend so you can't be all over with her. If she's really into you, it'll only drive her all the crazier for you.

And if she isn't, and thinks you're a player now, then to hell with her and move on. (bonus: if you don't feel like being 'the bigger man' tell her she wanted to see you behind her BF's back, so she's just as guilty)

Either way it's not your problem.

okay so, i had some modelling thing for a society. i mentioned it to her so she decides to join the same society's event... now how do i play this? i actually was going to pull out but shes begged me to come because she 'only signed up to see me'.

ive contemplated bringing a girl to the rehersals just for shits and giggles..

do it ;)

just say no, im takin some other girl,

she is just a friend.

this means this other girl is higher value in ur eyes.....

infact... after writin this i had a sudden moment.

fuck the games mate... just say to her...

"look, go away, do u think i need to be playin with some other guys girl, get some self respect! good people dont cheat and u tried to play me, i dont get played, ur clearly not good enuf for me... be gone"

yeah i think i will do... kinda wanna fuck with her head tho cos if im being honest, i feel like i've been fucked with.

i said to her "look you're not single... hook me up with a girl. she said "yeah i'll hook you up with a girl.... then i will hate her"."

I'd echo both what Phil and Kowalski said.

The only thing that I would add is if this girl is willing to ditch her current boyfriend for you, there's a higher probability for her to leave you for somebody else in the future, you're better off rid and not looking back.