Break Up
 

Well guys, me and my girl, we have had this long distance relationship for 10 months. She lives in Slovakia and I study in England, weve been 'personally' together for 6 months out of the 10 months that we are oficially a couple. I spent whole summer with her until 12th of September, since then im in england again but i was about to go back to slovakia on 14th of October but seems like i wont because today we broke up, she left me. She wrote me a message to call her, and she said that she wants to break up because this relationship makes no sense, that she only sees me once in 2 months for 2 weeks. I know that she was always attracted to me, to be more arrogant, i am the guy who is always surrounded with girls and she knows it but lately i acted a little bit needy, i gave her too much power lately by writting her gay messages about how i like her and bla bla and she felt like im GRANTED. We often talk on facebook but mostly on phone.

You know guys, im not trying to be a hero, it hurt me that my girl left me. And i know exactly what a general PUA advice for this would be, ''forget about her and get another girls, you will soon forget about her, it are just chemicals, dont worry bro''.

BUT, i want to make her attracted to me again and fucking beg me to come back to her. What should i do to make it happen? Guys, she is only 19 !

I would like to see some positive replies from you, dont say that there is nothing you can do about it now. There always is a solution and if u think there isn't then don't post here please !

All advice is appreciated, thank u !

distance

can u explain it further ?

i feel such a big need writting her a message, but i think it would be a VERY BAD IDEA. Shit, this feelings are fucked up but everyone has been in these situations. Need to get over it

Forget about her & get other girls, you will soon forget about her, it is just chemicals, dont worry bro.


Seriously though?

You said she is only 19 as if it should mean she will be easy to get back!

Reality check: most 19 year old girls dont want to be serious in a relationship, they want to party & play around without any ties, & even if you did get her back, it will usually come back to "i just want to have fun & be single"

But since your gunna try anyway no matter what anyone tells you (been there myself) i would say do what amit said.

good advice, u think fucking her classmate is a good idea ?

if u act needy, then in a few months, u will hate urself for it

no message no matter how romantic or whatever is gonna change her mind.

its the end accept it

Hey man,

Sorry to hear that. Remember though, you are flesh and blood, you will love and lose and feel pain many times in your life, as you are doing it at your limits, then chin-up, most people don't.

That said, the general sentiment is true, the more you need her the less she will want you. Lose your desire in the crazy shit-storm of life, go out, smile, scream, laugh, be all the things that made her want you in the first place... funny thing is, by the time she sees that, you'll likely be well over her.

x

well, to be honest, that is what i told her ''i accept it, i understand u, u know the best what u want, it was a nice relationship, it is silly that we throw it away like this but whatever, bye babe'

ur best response would be!! ahh... right... ok u sure????

yes...


cool take it easy.

<end> thats gonna be my new response to rejection, no matter what !!! THAT IS GONNA BE IT.

coz i know i will love myself for it

WHAT A FUCKING POST!!!

ur still gay tho adam, so there

killed ur cool this one tho

thanks for advices guys, really appreciate it ! :) I am only 21 years old and i didnt experience such things before, i never thought this could ever happen to me cuz i always played it cool nd it always worked for me but once i showed my feelings to the girl a little bit more, she left me. It is a funny paradox because the reason that she left me is that she lost the attraction for me. We only talked on the phone and chatted on FB last month, by that time i was a good and nice BF telling her that i like her each time we finished our conversation. If she was here with me seeing me chatting to hot girls on the street or seeing my Uni classmates touching my six-pack at female toilets haha she would never lose the fucking attraction and fighted to keep me ! But whatever, life is not that fair.

u dont need to tell people u like them, u just assume they know, if they wanna know they will ask... but then that question comes from insecurity... and u telling her to me, was u looking for her to open up 2 u.

funny tha coz i learned it all without ur hippy shit, go figure

i get ur point, but she was often the first one telling me that, i just replied the same way.

coz she wanted u to tell her back.

coz here is the thing... before people hit 25... and u have experienced shit...

all u want is what u cant have....

then when u grow up a bit... u want what u want.


ur both young, this is youth! its part of learning

I agree and dont agree with this statment
from a 'getting girls to like you' point of view - not telling them you like them or complimenting them puts them on the backfoot especially if they are a hottie - which works to your advantage, as they will seek validation from you themselves and pursue you.

BUT

Personally, turning girls/dates into a RELATIONSHIP actually getting them to have genuine feelings for you rather than game playing and lusting after 'getting you'
it works far better to pay girls genuine honest compliments.
'you look beautiful' 'i really like you' etc etc and these should never be prompted by the girl asking but should be initiated by you
but on a side note -- saying things like ' you are beautiful' etc is a double edged sword - if you say it from a position of awesomeness/power/confidence -it works like i explained, BUT if you say it from a gay slimy 'i need you' position it will get you blown out the water

Oh for fuck sake, boo fucking hoo.....if you want her back you will never get her back, if you dont want her back the possibility of it will increase dramaticly. the problem then however is that you wont want her back.

ajay

A nice problem to have ?

aint it da troof

ye man, thats were i fucked it up, i cut all contact with the girl, i got a new object now, a german HB8, going iceskating with her on friday (first date), she is really more cute than my ex, but i still can only hardly believe that i will lose the interest for my ex.

i somtimes think aj might be my fightclub alter ego...


obv he is the puff version that wont shag the bird...

but my alter ego all the same

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